Man tries to control wife's reproductive choices. She wasted no time and called a divorce lawyer

Having choices and control over reproductive health is essential for every person. However, quite a few women might face pressure and control from their partner or society. A woman faced something similar when her husband told her that he wouldn't allow her to get a salpingectomy (removing the fallopian tubes) because it would "damage" her. The Reddit user, u/Kimber_Rex22, took to the platform to ask people if she was wrong for planning to get the procedure done without telling her husband.

"My partner and I have 2 children together and have been married for 8 years. For those 8 years, I’ve either been on birth control when we were preventing pregnancy or tracking my cycle when we were trying to conceive," the woman explained. She pointed out how all the reproductive responsibilities have been on her. "Recently, we discussed the possibility of being done with children since we have our 2 and the family really feels complete. My partner is in agreement that a third child is off the table for him as well." The woman felt that either of them could get a sterilization procedure done because she did not feel good with birth control and would like to be done with it now after eight years.

"It’s been about 3 months since our talk about more children, so I brought up either getting a vasectomy for him or me getting a salpingectomy. What I thought would be a productive conversation completely blew up." The man outright refused to get a vasectomy, but the woman then suggested that she was okay with getting a salpingectomy instead. "He completely flipped his s*** on me, screaming at me about how he forbids it and won’t allow me to damage myself like that."

The woman left to get the kids from school and called her gynecologist on the way to schedule an appointment and to ensure that she could do it without her spouse's approval. In an update, the woman shared that she wasn't sure if she wanted to get a divorce but had decided to consult a divorce lawyer to explore her options. People took to the comments section of the thread to express support for her decision. u/Immediate-Guest8368 wrote, "I had an OB tell me it was more dangerous to have my tubes removed than to carry a baby to term and deliver. It was one of the dumbest things I’ve ever heard and I wanted nothing to do with the woman after that. She was clearly in the bottom of her graduating class in med school."

u/Altitudedog commented, "There are plenty of lunatic people out there with medical degrees. I'm nearly 70 now, but so many friends and myself, misdiagnosed, butchered. A friend told me about a relative of hers in the 90s who had 3 or 4 kids already, having terrible issues that were possibly pre-cancerous. The first male doctor she went to listened to her symptoms and then asked her if her husband was done having children. I would have helped Dr to be neutered right there."

u/Imaginary_Poetry_233 remarked, "It will damage 'his property'. He wants to keep his options open while leaving all responsibility for birth control on her. But he will punish her if she gets pregnant without his permission." u/Dibiasky expressed, "BECAUSE of his reaction you might want to go get your tubes tied IMMEDIATELY. I know I would."