Man stunned after being asked to pay $115 for attending his brother’s wedding

Weddings are a time for celebration, and most guests bring a gift that suits their budget and relationship with the couple. But what happens when a wedding gift becomes a surprise obligation? That’s exactly what one Reddit user, u/Cloudy_Skies1993, experienced after being asked to pay $115 per person—a week after attending their brother’s wedding. They turned to Reddit for advice on how to handle the unexpected request.

"My younger brother got married a few weeks ago and it was overall a lovely evening. Now, this week, I received a text from him saying, 'Hi, my wife just told me she hasn’t received your $115 each, no rush, you can send it to 123@email.com.'" They added, "Now, at no point before was it communicated to me that they were charging guests to attend. Nowhere on the invitation either. Plus, my husband and I already gave them $400 cash on their card." The post continued, "This wedding occurred at an expensive restaurant downtown in a private room famous for its architecture. No idea why they booked that place if they can’t afford it. There is no open bar or dance floor. We didn’t even drink alcohol that night and still paid $30 for pop and coffee plus Uber there and back."

"His only response is, 'Oh, thought you knew' and 'I forgot to tell you sorry' all nonchalantly. So infuriating." they shared. "It got heated and I eventually told him I would send the money, but he could wait. Now I am pissed off. I am considering not sending anything and if he asks, I’ll say, 'Oh, I forgot.'" They continued, "Oh, did I mention I also got married in June this year and didn’t charge anyone a dime." People took to the comments section of the post to support the individual and give ideas for handling the situation.

u/_CPR__ wrote, "You could respond, 'Sure thing, bro! I'll ask the bank to void the $400 check we put in our congratulations card and write you a new one for $230. Thanks so much for pointing out our error!'" u/dizzychamapagne commented, "Just tell them you deducted your $115 each from what you were going to charge them for your wedding, which is $120 each and then Venmo a request $10." u/BodyBy711 remarked, "Tell him they can take it out of the $400 enclosed in the card. My god, how tacky. If they're going to be cheap and petty like this, I'd send an itemized bill right back. Pay me for the Uber, pay me for what I spent on food/drinks, pay me for anything I spent on pre-wedding festivities. Dying to know what your parents think of this."

The person shared, "Ok, at first I didn’t want to ask my mom, but she said yes, he charged her and my stepdad and that she told him he should’ve said something on the invitation and that it was expensive for her." u/emccm expressed, "He can take it out the $400. That would be the absolute last gift they ever got from me. I’d be saying 'Christmas/Birthday/Baby gifts were included in the $400” for the rest of my days."