His take on western parenting is an eye-opener showing that even simple parenting mistakes can impact the children when they're adults.
Being a parent requires a lot of patience not just to handle the kids but also to listen to the silly advice of self-proclaimed parenting experts. Even if parents want to raise their children as per their wishes, the childcare practices prevalent in western countries might make them rethink their choices. Dan Donohue—who goes by @notbaddan on Instagram—a comedian based in LA has a hilarious take on how western childcare was so faulty that it directly impacted people's lives as an adult. With over 2 million views, his video caught the internet's attention and many agreed with his perspective on western childcare's impacts.
Donohue is quite popular on social media for sharing his opinions in a subtly humorous way and what stands out is he does that while washing dishes. In this video too, the comedian washes his dishes while pointing out the flaws of Western childcare. "There was a mistake made in Western childcare that probably had a direct effect on you," Donohue said. "For many years, it was understood that when a baby cries, it's because it needs to be picked up." The comedian added that babies generally cry to convey to their parents that they want something physically or emotionally and pointed out how that's the only way babies could do it.
Donohue then highlighted that at some point, western culture adopted the notion that one "shouldn't comfort a baby every time it cries." He called it a "wild idea" because people thought that comforting a baby while it cries equates to spoiling a baby and they avoided doing so. "You know the problem with his country is babies are too dang soft and this idea proved to be completely untrue and also really bad for the baby and some people still practice this ideology," the comedian added.
Speaking about today's reality of parenting, Donohue said with snarky humor, "There are still people out there to this day who hear a crying baby and go, 'I don't think so baby, you're not going to get the better of me. I know your baby tricks and I am not falling for your baby manipulation.'" The comedian called this type of practice "a battle of wits between the parent and the baby," where crying babies are thought to be manipulative rather than innocent beings that long for physical or emotional support. "Imagine if we all got held more maybe we all wouldn't be this way," said Donohue. His caption read, "You can't spoil a baby," and thousands of comments agreed.
"No, you can't comfort a baby every time they cry or else they will grow up feeling supported, loved and like their needs are being met by the individuals responsible for bringing them into the world and ensuring their survival and we just can't have them thinking their parents love them enough or something," wrote @russki_spion sarcastically criticizing the western parenting ways. "Someone told me when my daughter was an infant 'If you pick her up every time she cries she’s gonna grow up thinking if she cries you’ll come running.' Good I’m her mama that’s the damn point of my existence in her life," wrote @kittenniko. "This method of parenting has deeply psychologically damaged so many people. Thanks for calling it out!! Studies have shown that the success of an adult can be traced back to how the baby was raised/attended to," wrote @mswolfeee.