Man kicks his pregnant fiancée out after her long-kept secret forces him to rethink their future

Transparency and communication are key to long-lasting relationships. When we embrace these aspects, we reveal our truest selves, strengthening the connection. However, when partners begin to hide things and stop communicating properly, it can create serious cracks in the relationship. A 33-year-old man, u/lethargicardio, recently shared on Reddit how a simple piece of information kept from him ultimately led to the end of his relationship.

He shared how his fiancée had told him she was infertile, which was fine with him as he never wanted biological children. However, after four years, he came home to find a positive pregnancy test sitting on the bathroom counter. "At first, I thought she might've been helping a friend, but when I confronted her, she broke down and admitted she's not infertile. She never was," he wrote in the post. "She lied because she thought I'd leave her if I knew she could have kids since she knew I didn't want them," he added. 

He then discovered that she had stopped taking birth control months earlier without telling him, simply to see if he would change his mind about fatherhood. "I was furious and told her this was a massive betrayal. I feel like my trust in her is shattered. She argued that she did it because she loved me and wanted us to have a deeper connection through a family. I told her I needed space and asked her to leave the house," he wrote in the post. For now, his fiancée was staying with her sister and texting him non-stop. She claimed he had overreacted and was being cruel by "kicking out the mother of his child."

"Her family is also chiming in, calling me a deadbeat dad for 'abandoning her' during pregnancy," he added. "I'm struggling because I never wanted kids, but now one is on the way, and I feel trapped. At the same time, I can't get over the fact that she lied to me for years and manipulated me into this situation," he concluded, asking the community if he was at fault. Commenters largely sided with the man, stating he had been gaslighted. "This is so wrong on so many levels. She's baby-trapping you and gaslighting you. You never wanted kids and made that clear. Not only did she lie about being infertile, but she also lied about still being on birth control. Leave her," wrote u/Significant-Bobcat48. 

"Change the locks. Get a lawyer. Keep all texts from her and her family, especially if she says anything about lying to you. Have as much documentation as possible for your lawyer. Cancel the engagement. She baby-trapped you," u/Careless-Image-885 advised. "You're justified here. She didn't lie about something small she made a life-altering decision for you without your consent and that's a massive betrayal. Love doesn't involve manipulation and stopping birth control behind your back is beyond messed up. You're not abandoning anyone. You're trying to process a situation you were forced into. Take the time you need to figure it out because this isn't something you should just get over," added u/DaisyyMaye.