The TikToker said that the patriarchy oppresses everyone, including men, which can be unhealthy for them.
There is a misconception that feminism is about hating men but that is not what feminism is about. Feminism calls for equality, which can only be achieved by doing away with the patriarchy and toxic masculinity. This common misconception has many people proudly stating that they are 'anti-feminism.' Even some who are against patriarchy like to brand themselves anti-feminist to not be a "man-hater." A viral video on TikTok is showing why feminism isn't just about empowering women but also about doing away with stereotypes surrounding men. The person explained that men also needed feminism because men are also victims of the patriarchal system.
The video featured a mash-up of two different TikToks, both explaining why toxic masculinity and the patriarchal structure as a whole punishes men as well. The first person highlighted how we live in a world where men who express emotion or cry are poked fun at and often humiliated. "Isn't it crazy that we live in a world that makes fun of guys who cry but 80% of suicides are guys," points out the first person. The second person goes on to elaborate on why feminism is needed to help men be themselves, rather than conform to the stereotypical man.
The TikTok user, who goes by @comradekamsaid, noted that a majority of the men believe feminism is about hating men when it couldn't be farther from the truth. He said patriarchy oppresses men who don't conform to the stereotype, forcing many to bottle up their emotions which can be very unhealthy. He added that men might be the beneficiaries of patriarchy but many sections of men are also victims of it. He states that men are told they "can't be vulnerable," and not show emotions, cry or be vulnerable. He said patriarchy labels such acts as feminine or girly, even though it has nothing to do with gender. He said bottling up emotion can be "toxic as hell."
He summed up that feminism is a fight against patriarchy and it is a fight for both men and women. He called on men to become and identify as feminists to bring down patriarchy. The comments on the video were overwhelmingly positive with many thanking him for bringing clarity on the matter. One person drew parallels with their own relationship, writing, " My boyfriend cannot ask for help [because] he expects me to know what he needs. This is a big strain because I want to help," they wrote. One person simply commented, "How do I tag all men in this?"