Even in his 30s, Bautista found himself in tears recalling his moments as a child when no one showed up for him.
One of the most crucial tasks as a parent is to support your child through all their phases. Celebrities, parent coaches and many others cannot begin to stress enough how they can support their children by simply “showing up.” The crux of parenting lies in being present for children and letting them know that whatever their role is, as a parent, they will present for them, cheering them on to do their best and be proud of all the hard work. Chris Bautista–who goes by @bautistud–shared a video on TikTok using his example to explain why showing up for children is essential.
Capturing himself in tears, Bautista shared that he was emotional because he had been watching videos of children spotting their parents in crowds during performances or assemblies. “I just can’t stop crying,” Bautista said as he shared a few glimpses. The video captured children during performances in subtle or secondary roles looking upset and nervous and glancing through the crowd to find someone for them. Though each child’s nature, age and situation is different, the only common thing is that they’re all looking around searching for their parents. As soon as each child finds their parent, their face immediately lights up with gleaming eyes and the brightest smile.
The children carry on with their respective roles during the performances quite normally, but having seen someone there for them seems to have brought about a positive reinforcement in their attitude. Bautista, in tears, then shared his experience and said, “I was instantly transported to being that kid, standing on a stage and scanning the auditorium to find someone who was there for me and I never did.” He then revealed that even after being in his 30s, he feels upset about it and feels broken somewhere within. “Even in my 30s, I’m crying about it,” he said.
Bautista then shared an important message to parents saying, “Parents, if you think it’s insignificant watching your kids dress up as an elf singing jingle bells, it might not seem like it matters that much, but just go because those little kids grow up to be broken adults.” Bautista’s video has gained over 2M views, 466K likes and 22K comments. Several commenters spoke about their own experiences and how they felt having no one show up for them. @daisyjayyou said, “I’m that broken kid, but my kids aren’t. I show up for everything.” @valreton said, “I was disappointed many times. My kids will never feel like that. I will be at every event.”
Other commenters shared sympathy for Bautista and those like him, even though virtually they tried to heal his inner child. @personaexcepcional said, “I don’t know you, but I’m sending ‘little you’ and ‘current you' love.” @stayclutchy said, “Parents not showing up hits harder than a train. We remember that pain forever.” To this, Bautista replied, “Once you feel it, you’ll never forget how to revisit that pain.”
Though Bautista didn’t say much, his tears and expressions gave away how much showing up for one’s child matters when they’re little and in the longer run. @avelinelittlebird said, “No one showing up for you is a form of childhood trauma and it’s something you carry with you. I’m so sorry it happened to you.”