Man ends Bumble date after woman says it is 'weird' to spend holidays with family

As Christmas approaches, many are gearing up for festive celebrations and creating cherished family memories. But what happens when the holidays spark a conflict between your family and your partner? This dilemma was put under the spotlight when Reddit user u/sacred2512 shared screenshots of a surprising conversation with a woman he matched with on Bumble. The woman urged couples to forgo spending the festive season with their families, leading to an unexpectedly tense exchange.

The man shared that he had matched with the woman on Bumble, though they hadn’t met in person yet. What began as a casual chat took a turn when he mentioned his plans to spend Christmas, which is also his birthday, at his parents’ home. "We can still celebrate together, but maybe not on the 24th," the man assured, understanding the woman's dilemma. However, she shared that she did not want a relationship where her partner chose to celebrate festivals with his parents. The man, seemingly baffled by the woman's strange reaction, further explained that even his 30-year-old brother comes home during Christmas, justifying his holiday plans with family. "Lol. That's weird and not nice," the woman replied. 

Additionally, when the man questioned the woman why she thought celebrating holidays with family was weird, she explained, "Because I would like to celebrate holidays with my boyfriend and not parents. That's weird." Moreover, when the man insisted on celebrating Christmas sometime later, the woman was even more furious and wrote, "On another day? That's not cool." With each message, the man's Bumble date was getting more and more triggered by his holiday plans. The situation became even more intense when she accused him of wanting only physical intimacy in a relationship and nothing else. "I have already said it and now I am sure that you are not searching for a normal relationship. You are searching for some non-serious bulls**t. You should write in your profile," she added.

Stunned by her escalating hostility, the man decided to end the conversation. "You have been calling me and my family weird this entire time just because you think we are doing something wrong. And again, I have been calm this entire time and you are telling me to go f**k myself? and that I am an a*****e?" he wrote, frustrated with her rude and atrocious behavior. To this, the woman responded by calling him an "Idiot" and said she was glad they had not met personally. The man then ended their conversation with a lengthy message. He wrote, "Alright. I am done with this. Just because me and my family and even all of my friends spend the holidays in a different way than you are used to does not mean that I am not looking for a relationship. I hope you find someone who fits your expectations. Good night." 

The Reddit post received an overwhelming response from the netizens. u/0zzyfromthefuture commented, "Brother, you dodged a bullet. It is completely okay to spend holidays with family, and it is also okay to spend it with your girlfriend, it is also okay to have them come spend it with your family, and vice versa. it should be a bit of both, for each holiday you can compromise. She is just crazy, bro." Similarly, u/princesscyanidephx wrote, "As a parent of an adult, don't you dare bring that one home." u/CommanderCodex added "You're fine. She can't regulate her emotions at all. She seems like the type of person who would ask you to do something detrimental to yourself so she doesn't have to manage her own emotions. Don't light yourself on fire to keep her warm."