Husband walked away from his partner’s cancer battle before trying to return after recovery. He got the response he deserved
It's been four years and six months since his ex-husband left, and the man has been thoroughly enjoying his freedom
A man left his ailing partner within a week of his cancer diagnosis. He told his husband that he "didn't sign up to be a nurse." Fair enough, his partner completed his treatment alone. But the situation changed when, a year later, he was declared 'cancer-free,' and his husband tried to withdraw the divorce application. Disgusted by his shallow self, the man decided to end the relationship and free himself from his narcissistic ex. He (u/nonamethrowaway6745) shared the latest update on March 8.
Update to 'he wants to call off my divorce because my cancer treatment was successful'. (Or my divorce was made official yesterday)
by u/Nonamethrowaway6745 in TrueOffMyChest
In August 2021, the man was diagnosed with testicular cancer, and his ex-husband immediately filed for divorce. He said it would be too much to take care of an ailing partner, and he would thus prefer a divorce over being his "nurse."
The couple, as per the rules, started living separately, waiting for the court to grant their divorce. Amidst the separation, the ailing man started his cancer treatment and soon defeated the disease. "I spent almost a year going through treatment. I had surgery, and I had chemotherapy, and it almost killed me, but in August of 2022, I was told there was no evidence of disease," he wrote in his post.
The man was happy, enjoying his new life, when he realized his ex-husband was now trying every possible way to withdraw the divorce. "I don't know how he found out, but when he did, he wanted to call off the divorce because I had gotten better," he recalled.
By now, the man had lost all respect for his ex-husband. So, he decided to get a divorce and free himself from his self-centered ex-partner. "I'm so glad the court finally saw through his games, and now the divorce has been made official," he wrote. As of March, it's been four years and six months since his ex-husband left, and the man has been thoroughly enjoying his life. In fact, he has even secured a good job and is simultaneously planning a vacation for his 40th birthday.
Several studies have observed an increase in divorce cases, especially after a partner is diagnosed with a fatal disease like cancer. For instance, a study on 4,366 breast cancer survivors found that almost 11.1/1,000 survivors experienced divorce after their diagnosis. Likewise, another study of 2,700 marriages cited by Time found that a married couple is 6% more likely to divorce when a wife is diagnosed with a serious illness.
It probably means men are more likely to seek divorce when their partner is unwell. The man from the Reddit story was also warned about a possible separation during his first oncology appointment. "I was given a warning about men leaving their spouses when there's an illness. But I never thought it would happen to me. Every person in my support group who was married to a man had it happen to them too," he confessed.
Meanwhile, netizens lauded the man for refusing to withdraw the divorce application. Reacting to his decision, u/aftermusician6499 commented, "Congratulations on beating cancer and losing that baggage of an ex. I guess he missed the part of your vows in sickness & in health! Enjoy every minute of your birthday celebration; you have the world at your feet! So happy for you!"
Similarly, u/dontstealmypaperclip shared, "This happened to me last year. After 20 years of marriage, he abandoned me while I was in the hospital being treated for cancer. I nursed him through two serious illnesses (Graves' disease and a mental health break), but he couldn't be here for me. Then he put me through an awful, contentious divorce that has completely left me bankrupt. The divorce was just finalized, and although I'm relieved, I'm still so shocked and hurt. I feel for you, OP. I'm glad you made it through. You're an inspiration."
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