Man decides to play video games over helping wife with the baby, sparking outrage

Being parents to a newborn baby is challenging, from waking up at night to feed the baby and diaper changes to being constantly available when the baby cries. Both parents need to be there to help each other out. However, a new dad on Reddit shared how he wanted an extra hour in the morning to play video games and chill out instead of helping his wife and people gave him a reality check. 

u/tireddad667 wrote that he and his wife have a six-month-old baby girl and his wife works two half days a week while her sister watches the baby. On the other hand, he has a full-time job and goes to school one day a week. "We've always had an arrangement where she takes care of the household duties (cooking, cleaning and now baby care) while I happily support her monetarily," the person shared. He added that they both are living their dream life and his wife does a "spectacular job" of taking care of him and their daughter.

The husband then says that on weekends they share baby duty. Also, they make sure that they have alone time to do whatever they want. However, recently their daughter began to have sleep regression and wakes up every two hours. He explained that since his wife breastfeeds the child, she's the one who takes care of him at night. "She's a light sleeper and unfortunately has insomnia, whereas I am a deep sleeper and wouldn't wake up for baby cries anyways," the person wrote.

Because of this, his wife asked him if he could wake up both days on the weekend so she could have an extra hour of sleep. The child wakes up around 7 am so he has to take her, get her dressed, and be with her for that hour. The problem arose when the person said that he wanted to be the one who gets to sleep that extra hour sometimes. "I brought this up to her and she says while she's happy to let me nap during the day, she really needs that hour because she can't nap like I can," the dad wrote.

They argued about it and she told him that he was being insensitive when he knew that she was exhausted and couldn't nap during the day and that "she struggles going back to sleep every time the baby wakes up." The man had his own reasons for asking for this one hour. "But I'm exhausted too, work wears me out, and school days are long... and I sometimes want the hour in the morning. I don't want to spend my off time napping, I want to play video games and chill out," the person wrote.

He asked people on the social media platform if he was wrong in asking to share mornings off. People didn't mince words in saying that he was being selfish by doing this. u/Solaris_0706 commented, "YTA, if she's taking all the night duty because you don't wake up, then you get the morning duty when you do wake up so she can catch up on her lost sleep in the night. You want a morning off, give her a night off." u/unit-00 wrote, "YTA, your wife does this 5/7 days, you can handle it for 2. This phase will pass, just put up with it for now and be a good husband."

u/Lindseyh911 shared, "YTA. Your wife has to get up with the baby every night, 7 days a week. The least you can do is get up in the morning with the baby. That's the absolute bare minimum you can do. If you want her to get up at 7 am, then you get up during the night with the baby. I'm sure your wife would be willing to pump if it means getting one whole night of sleep." u/Particular-Set5396 commented, "YTA. And you don’t 'support her monetarily' she provides you with free labor so that you can have a career."