Man asks wife to cover IVF costs herself due to her infertility issues, sparking debate

Life can be challenging, but having a supportive partner can make it easier to navigate. Unfortunately, when Reddit user u/LeatherRequirement59 realized her husband wouldn’t stand by her during a situation that affected them both, she chose to step back and leave. In her post, she explained that they had been married for 13 years and had been trying to have a child for a long time. "We've tried many methods and nothing worked," she wrote. Then, a friend suggested they try IVF, prompting her to bring up the idea with her husband.

"He agreed to the suggestion, but the cost kind of had him hesitating," she added. "IVF sessions are costly, yes, but me and my husband have enough savings to afford them," she further explained. She tried to approach her husband on multiple occasions only to sense his disinterest in the method. "He pointed out how one session isn't guaranteed and that we'd have to pay for more," to which she mentioned how they could afford it if they combined the money.

The situation took a shocking turn when her husband made a hurtful comment that left her reeling. "He looked at me intently and then told me that "'logically,' since I'm the cause of infertility, then he thought that I should handle the cost of IVF sessions by myself," she shared. The comment shocked the wife to the core and she found herself unable to muster a response. "He said it to my face straight. I felt so hurt I exploded on him and he acted like I was being unreasonable and then said he was not obligated to pay for 'my own medical issues,'" she wrote.

That's when she decided to draw the line. "I lost it and decided to pack my stuff and stay with my mother. No response from him after that. Just a text stating, 'truth hurts' that he sent when I rejected his phone call," she wrote. Later, she talked about her family's reaction, stating that they thought she was "overriding" his emotions. "I got blamed by family, saying I'm overriding his feelings and that he had the right to open up about how he felt when I kept pushing him about the IVFs," she concluded her post. After the incident, she asked the community if she was at fault.

People in the comment section unanimously called out the husband for his unacceptable response. "Nah, that's one of the shittiest things I've seen written on these god-hated boards. Be glad he showed you that side of himself before you had a child with him," shared u/Lambsenglish. "No, you didn't overreact. Your husband's comments were incredibly hurtful and insensitive. It's a shared journey, not just your 'medical issue.' You deserve support and understanding, not blame," said u/SweetyChickkk. Many were surprised upon learning about her family's reaction. "Her family is awful, too. No wonder she ended up with that guy. OP, if you see this, I hope you can find a therapist who can help you heal from the toxicity you come from. It is possible. They'll help you have different kinds of people in your life. You deserve better," suggested u/ThenIGotHigh81.