Man asks if he is wrong for breaking up with girlfriend 'when she tested him' with mind games

Trust and transparency are vital for any relationship. Another essential element is transparency and the last thing anyone should do is play mind games with their partner to see how they'd react. One woman learned this the hard way after she tested her boyfriend by telling him that they were moving too fast and that she wanted to break up with him. u/AdAlarmed2847 shared his experience on Reddit and started by talking about what happened with an ex when he was 16 years old. He wrote that she broke up with him and he begged her to take him back because he thought he was in love.

After this incident, he promised himself to never do that again. Cut to the recent incident he had with his girlfriend. The 25-year-old wrote, “I had been with my girlfriend for a year and a half. We met at a social function for people in our line of work. We hit it off and started seeing each other more often, then made it exclusive.” He then shared that they were planning to move in together as the city they live in is expensive and they thought they could save some money that way.

Things took an unexpected turn when his girlfriend said that they were moving too fast. Respecting her wishes, he told her it was okay as they hadn't made any plans that couldn’t be undone. The woman then said to him that she wanted to break up with him because she wasn’t sure he was into her. He said okay and surprisingly, she freaked out at this. The man explained, “Apparently it was a test to see if I would fight for her. Yeah, I don't do that anymore and I do not appreciate mind games. So, I told her that I would box up anything of hers that might be at my place and she could pick it up.”

His girlfriend became hurt after hearing his response. He wrote, “She accused me of being a cold-hearted a***ole that was only using her for sex. I wasn't. I thought we had a future. I wasn't ready to propose or anything but I thought she was the one. We had met each other's families and she had spent last Christmas with us. My parents and sister love her. I loved her.” The 25-year-old’s parents called and asked him what happened and he shared it with them. “They think I am being stubborn. My little sister says I'm being a complete j**k for not forgiving my ex. I just remember crying myself to sleep over a girl and refuse to do it again,” he concluded.

People in the comments supported the man for his decision. u/somethingstrange87 commented, "Tests are not okay, and fighting for someone who says they're leaving you is disrespectful and saying they don't know their own mind." u/anonymoose036 wrote, "Nobody likes being the subject of weird relationship mind games, and the people that do it are always so surprised when they get dropped because of it. You can find someone better, someone confident in their relationship with you."

u/over-marionberry-686 shared, "I’m 100% with you. I don’t do 'test'. Many years ago, a guy I was dating said maybe we should break up. I just packed my stuff and left. Many years later we ran into each other and he said it was a 'loyalty test'. I laughed so hard. No. Just no." u/chez2202 said, "Anyone who decides to test your loyalty and love in a way designed to hurt you and make you beg them doesn’t deserve you."