'I've definitely had days where I just can't do it,' the actress shared about the public's perception of her being 'so nice.'
For all the 'nice' ones out there, it is not always easy being amicable on bad days. Faking the act of being good seems to make the day even worse. Fear not, for you are not alone. Jennifer Garner relates with you. The 51-year-old Apple TV+ thriller "The Last Thing He Told Me" actress shared with Allure in an interview that she can't always live up to the impossible label of "nice."
She admits that being perceived as "so nice" in public makes it more challenging for her to set boundaries. "The problem with, 'Oh, she's so nice' is that when I have any kind of boundary, people think of it as much more than it actually is," she explained. "The problem is being recognized on a day where I'm not so nice or when I have blackness in my soul."
"I've definitely had days where I just can't do it. I scowl at people before they can walk up to me. I'm not perfect and I don't think I'm rude, but I'm not good at being fake. I'm an open book of a person," Garner added. The "13 Going on 30" star previously spoke to Town & Country about what it is like to deal with the golden "nice" label.
"I have no reason not to be nice. My life is lovely. I'm not always just nice. I can also be salty, and I can be taciturn, or I can be really serious about what I want to get done," she expressed. "It's not that I feel I'm underestimated in that way — I'm not afraid to stand up for myself and say, 'Just so you know, this isn't going to fly with me.' When that happens, I don't want you to be shocked that I'm a real person."
Garner is known to have a kind persona. In 2017, she co-founded Once Upon a Farm, a startup that sells fresh, cold-pressed, organic baby food—essentially creating a category that didn't exist. Garner also shows her support for the Save the Children organization. "Believe me, when anything's happening, the whole world calls me," she has previously shared. The episode of Katie Couric's podcast in which she appeared was titled "Is Jennifer Garner Really as Nice as She Seems?" (Yes, said Couric.)
However, nice is a strange word. It can be dismissive, but in Garner's case, it may work to her advantage, putting her in the perfect position to pick up the phone and call just about anyone for the right cause.
She did something out of character in April 2022. She threw herself a lavish 50th birthday party. "I basically had a wedding for myself," Garner said, laughing. "I was so shocked that I was doing it." As Garner admits, it's okay for us to drop the nice act once in a while and not fake our goodness on the bad days.