This dad is setting an example for every man out there and reminding women that patriarchal culture has made them doubt their value in society.
Women deal with a lot on a daily basis when they go out in society. Whether it is someone criticizing their looks, body or clothing preferences, women always have to suffer the effects of patriarchy. They aren't even allowed to age naturally without getting ridiculed for signs of the natural process. On the other hand, men are often praised for "aging like fine wine" as they get older. This double standard in society has been addressed by many people at many points previously but you might not have witnessed a husband rant his heart out about this sensitive topic.
Chrissy Powers who goes by @chrissyjpowers on TikTok posted a now-viral video of her husband dropping some powerful facts and statements on the topic. Powers interestingly titled the video: "Sunday Sermon, How the patriarchy makes women question their beauty and then makes money off their insecurities." Powers films her husband as he shares his viewpoint on how patriarchy has made women believe in several lies about their self worth for ages.
They were possibly having a conversation about aging and patriarchy prior to filming the video so she asked her husband to repeat something for the camera that everybody needed to hear. "I just looked at a picture of Jennifer Lopez. And I said, ‘How does she look that good at 50-something?’ And you said..." she said, trailing off to invite her husband to repeat his words. "I said she spends millions of dollars on herself to look like that. That's the problem with patriarchal culture. The patriarchal culture tells women that if they don't look like a celebrity, their value is, like, nothing," her husband shared.
He pointed out how when men go to movies and watch actors like Brad Pitt take off their shirts, they never dwell on how they are ever going to compete with a man like that. They don't feel pressurized to look like celebrities most of the time. "We know we can't, so we just accept it. We are just us," he explained. "It’s more acceptable for you to accept it though," Powers replies.
"That's the patriarchal culture!" her husband responds. "The idea that a woman is only valuable when they're between the ages of 18 and 25. That's ridiculous." Powers asks him eagerly if she is more valuable to him right now and he swiftly replies with a firm "yes." He also goes on to rant about how the beauty industry benefits from the insecurities of vulnerable women and successfully markets anti-aging products.
"Listen, women have to stop believing the lies that the patriarchal culture machine tells them that their value is only because they look young. It's ridiculous," he says to his wife. He adds that there is nothing wrong with aging and that it is an inevitable process. He goes on to blame capitalism and patriarchy for conditioning women to believe in such lies. Finally, Powers questions if she is more hotter now than when he met her.
"Oh, 100%. Oh, God, you're so much more beautiful. I mean, you were hot then. You have, there is a wholeness to your beauty now because it comes with wisdom. It comes with inner knowing. It comes with doing the work that is required of you to this point. So you're doing the beautiful work of the change, the lasting change of moving forward which is wisdom," he thoughtfully replies. The TikTok community was impressed by the thoughts of Powers' husband.
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@cookie0528 wrote: "Dad bod vs. mom bod. Mom bod isn’t accepted even though we created the child. It’s exhausting." @tree.water.mycelium commented: "When you said there is a wholeness to your beauty now, I was in tears. Women aren't told this enough if at all. So, we learn to tell ourselves. Thank you." @lexigailofficial added: "Just turned 25 and I’m trying to fill my head with content like this because I want to just age and love my body at all stages. Love this!" Powers' husband is out here giving people hope that men understand the toxic side of patriarchy too and how it affects women negatively.