Husband refuses to do house chores — so wife stacked dirty dishes in front of the TV to teach him a lesson

It can be extremely challenging, especially for a married person, to work full-time, look after a house, and raise kids at the same time. In such a situation, they might expect a little help from their spouse, but it can be frustrating if they don't get any of it. A 29-year-old woman who asked her husband to pick one chore around the house experienced something similar when the kitchen was always full of dirty dishes. The wife finally reached her breaking point and piled the dishes in front of the TV. In a now-deleted post, the woman explained the incident and asked if she was overreacting.

"My husband and I have been married for 12 years and we have three kids in elementary school," the woman began. Her husband worked from 2 p.m. to 11 p.m. from home while she worked full-time as a nanny and housekeeper. "I spend about twelve hours a day on my feet cleaning and taking care of kids, between work and caring for our kids at home, which is fine. Because of his hours, I do 90% of parenting alone," she said. Her husband didn't help with the housework, and thus she felt exhausted. She eventually asked him to pick one household chore that would be his responsibility.

Her husband chose to do the dishes. "Since then, my life is brimming with dirty dishes," she shared. "I offered to teach him to do them efficiently. I have tried to help him figure out when he can do them because he says he's too busy. I have done a load or two to help him get on top of it. But now the standard in my home is that every single dish in my house is dirty, piled high in the sink and covering all the counter space."

The wife expressed that she was struggling to cook and clean because of that. Moreover, her husband used his free time to build his Twitch channel as a potential side hustle instead of helping his wife. He had less than a dozen followers, according to his wife.

She still supported his side hustle but wished he would do a little bit to make her life at home easier. "He has several hours of uninterrupted time where he could just do 30 minutes of dishes a night and make my life so much easier," she wrote. The wife ended up piling the dirty dishes in front of the TV.

"I know he will be very upset about it, but I don't feel like he understands how disgusting and difficult it is to live surrounded by dirty dishes. He just doesn't go into the kitchen now because it's gross. I don't have the luxury to avoid it; I have children to feed," she added. People in the comment section supported the woman.

u/whatdoiput96 wrote, "This is why I’m glad I lived with my boyfriend before getting engaged. Not overreacting." u/Kip_Schtum commented, "You know, if you left him and gave him 50-50 custody, he’d have to do all the housework in his house and all the dishes and take care of the kids 50% of the time. You would have every other week off." u/super-duperfun82 remarked, "Oh my god, your husband is super lazy and hiding behind his 10 follower streamer side gig, lol. Like come on bro, if he had 1000 followers, I would still say this is unacceptable. Help keep your house clean and afloat."