Husband bought bananas and tuna for no reason—then his wife found a secret note that left her crying

On Thursday morning, Janaé Basemore (@jaethefade on Threads) revealed that her husband bought her a “bunch of bananas — like an obnoxious amount,” and although she didn’t understand the reason behind his gesture, she was sure to snack on them. “He also got me tuna fish which I found strange & offered to cook us ‘trout’ for dinner which neither of us have ever made,” she further explained. This seemed rather odd, but she let it be, putting it down to his mood and happily abiding by his suggestions. On Thursday, while cleaning the house, Basemore noticed a piece of paper on her husband’s desk, which made her curious. Drawing close, she began to read the tiny handwriting, only to discover what her husband had been hiding for several weeks — perhaps even months!

Basemore suffers from Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) — a severe variant of the more popular Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS). PMDD has been known to cause heavy disruption to one’s daily life, bringing with it an abundance of mood swings, physical symptoms, fatigue, and emotional distress. The condition is so serious that one must get treated by a medical professional and maintain certain permanent lifestyle changes in order to ward off the pain. Many patients often have to rely on serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and over-the-counter pain medication. As we know, the mind is connected to the body — changes in either affect the other, without exception. The only way to counter this is to keep strict tabs on one’s body, monitoring what is eaten, how much is eaten, when it is eaten, and much more.

This is why, when Basemore found a fully charted plan of her menstrual cycle on her husband’s desk, she couldn’t fathom the lengths to which he had gone for her. In fact, he even made the effort to write the non-scientific details in brackets, which probably helps him understand how the ups and downs of a menstrual cycle affect one’s mood. “28 day cycle, 4 different phases,” he wrote, “menstruation phase (period) — follicular phase (likes me) — ovulation phase (wants 2 bang me) — luteal phase (hates me).” Not only this, but he has also tracked the average length of each phase and its corresponding dates.

Next, he wrote, “Feed her specific things through specific phases,” going on to note that he should typically provide her with hot meals during the menstrual phase, “considering she has cramps & irritability.” He noted how preparing fish would help reduce the inflammation and pain in her body, while dark chocolate or magnesium-heavy food items would help with cramps. “Chinese medicine says this is the cold phase so typically focus on things like oatmeal, soups, broths, hot foods to counteract the energy that her body is producing.” For the follicular phase, he highlighted “little to no protein… fruits like fresh avocados.” He goes on to note other fruits like watermelon, bananas, and citrus, as well as salmon, chicken, eggs, and berries for the luteal phase, followed by other notes for day-specific care.

The level of effort seems otherworldly, with the internet dreaming of being on the receiving end of such care someday. @lesloomoo wrote, “Bless him. That's fantastic that he's trying so hard. Sounds like a good one!” @consistentlyconflicted expressed, “This touched my heart when I was waking up. What a partner.” Much like other women reading this, @jadzia.stax mentioned, “Well this just jumpstarted my ovulation phase, I can tell you that much.”