Family tried to exclude gay son from inheritance — the court decision left the family with restraining orders

A gay man, JJ, had to move away from his parents and extended family after they cut him off because of his sexuality. In fact, they even tried to remove him from his dead grandfather's will. Life continued, and he decided to marry; the gay man knew his family would create problems at his wedding, so he intentionally kept them away from it. However, when his family found out, they accused him of splurging their money without inviting them to his wedding. The man refused to stay silent and stood his ground, leading to such a heated argument that the neighbors had to inform the cops. At the end, the homophobic family ended up regretting it as their son got restraining orders against them, finally kicking them out of his life forever. His friend posted his story on Reddit. 

JJ was around 27 when he came out to his family; by then, everyone except them knew he was gay. JJ knew his family wouldn't react well to the news, and as expected, they disowned him almost immediately after learning about his sexuality. His maternal grandma even tried to take him off his grandpa's will, but couldn't do anything because of a 'no-modification' clause. The document exclusively noted it couldn't be modified, and homosexuality wasn't listed as a condition that could invalidate an heir's inheritance. Consequently, JJ remained a legal partial owner of the properties and received a significant amount of money. He cut all ties with his family. Years later, JJ decided to marry Sky, his longtime partner, without his parents and family, except for a few of his cousins, with whom he was still in touch. "The wedding was amazing, done in an underground (literally speaking, it was a freaking cave) venue, his sister took him to the altar, there was an orchestra playing, etc. Fairy tale style," his friend shared. However, the real tension began after the wedding.

JJ's parents and his grandparents somehow found out his address and visited him without prior warning. At first, they played it safe, pretending to be emotional about not being invited to his wedding. Later, they accused him of using their money without even calling them to his wedding. "…his parents were mad he had used the 'family' money on the ceremony (he told me they actually thought he paid for everything and had burned through all the inheritance, when it was more like 30-40% of the deal)," JJ's friend said. The argument lasted quite some time, resulting in a physical fight between him and his father, until the neighbors called the police. "Charges were pressed on both sides, but in the end, the case was declared a 'tie,' and JJ was not forced to pay 1 cent. He was also able to ask for restraining orders against all of them," his friend explained. JJ was heartbroken because, despite knowing his family, he thought they would someday accept him wholeheartedly, but he lost that hope after the incident.

Unfortunately, millions of homosexual people from around the world go through similar brutal experiences. A survey (Just Like Us) of 3,695 adults aged 18 to 25 found that 46% of the people from the LGBTQ+ community are estranged from at least one family member. This means homosexual people are still fighting for acceptance from their families even today. The same survey revealed that 31% those surveyed said they aren't sure if their parents, guardians, or carers would react positively to them coming out. It was also observed that homosexual adults (14%) were twice as likely as non-homosexual (6%) people to say they weren't close to their immediate family members.

Meanwhile, reacting to the Reddit post, u/childof_themoon commented, "Unbelievable, glad your friend was able to cut ties and get a restraining order on them; they sound like homophobic macadamias." Similarly, u/sortesilly wrote, "I will never be able to understand how you can throw your own child out of your life, solely based on who they love. It's so far from what I consider love...Isn't that (love) supposed to be unconditional for your kids? Nothing in this world would make me turn my back on my kids. It's their life... if they are happy, I'm happy. What a bunch of shitty a**hole people."

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