He ended their whirlwind summer romance over 'long distance' and seemed crushed. 30 days later, a woman overseas texted her his wedding plans
Ironically, he was the same guy who kept texting her after the breakup
Not every love story is built to last. Some, in fact, are like matchsticks that burn bright but fizzle out just as quickly. A woman who goes by u/western-region7970 on Reddit, however, learned it the hard way after falling for a con artist. On September 24, 2026, she explained how her ex-boyfriend, who broke up with her over long distance, was actually planning his wedding with someone else. Ironically, this was the same guy who had been constantly messaging her even after their breakup, saying he loved her too much to move on.
A dream man
After a brief romance, things got messy when the author moved away for school, while the military guy relocated. However, the couple decided to continue dating and try long-distance for some time. The author also explained how consistent her ex was in their early relationship. "I’m talking about him going above and beyond: planning our first date, driving 45+ min to see me one way up to 5 times a week, bringing me food for my lunch while I was working night shift, or just driving to my job and hanging out with me on my lunch break even though it," she added. In fact, her ex once cancelled an international trip to spend time with her. Truly haven’t felt connected to a man like that in years, and the vibes were so good," the author recounted. However, the situation changed soon after long-distance.
The shocking text
The couple decided to be exclusive, but a month later, the man broke up with the author. She respected his decision, but he was emotional and distraught. He kept messaging her as if nothing had changed. Eventually, the author had to ask him to go no-contact so she could properly move on. Things took a surprising turn when the author received a text from a girl in a different country. She said she had been talking to her ex-boyfriend on and off for three years. He had made plans to visit her in November, bring her to the U.S., and marry her. The last part was the biggest shocker.
She told the author that her ex-boyfriend was picking out flights with her 2 weeks ago. "This man was planning an international trip where he was going to pay for her travel, all while telling me how distraught he is that we aren’t together," the author explained. When she confronted her ex, he responded by saying, "[The] plans weren’t real and that he didn’t actually intend on going."
The long-distance dilemma
Just as the author was initially reluctant about long-distance relationships, most Americans have mixed views about them. A 2018 YouGov poll found that 36% of respondents believed "absence makes the heart grow fonder," while another 36% said "out of sight, out of mind," when it came to doing long-distance. A KIIROO survey also discovered that long-distance relationships have a 58% success rate and revealed that the fourth month is usually the hardest. However, one of the biggest challenges is the lack of physical intimacy (66%), which was something the author worried about. People were also worried their partners would find someone else (55%). Loneliness was another challenge (50%), as well as growing apart (43%). Apparently, the man was already involved in a long-distance relationship with another woman from a different country, and the author was just another relationship he was juggling.
'He's a liar'
Netizens had several questions in the comment section about the man's character. u/JustStopItSeriously wrote, "So he tells you he was bullsh****** her, not you, and he thinks that makes him look better in your eyes!? Block him. And maybe tell her what he said." u/cherrypyjamas shared, "I feel like I'm you but somewhat reversed. I'm the one in a different country, and he's on post in Georgia. He disappeared this summer and lied to me about where he went, and just goes hot and cold, and I'm too chicken p**p to let it go even though I'm hurting so much."
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