After insisting on a pre-nuptial agreement to protect his finances, one husband had to eat his own words when he learned his wife earned more than he did.
Prior to getting married, a husband and wife signed a pre-nuptial agreement stating that their finances would always be separate (bar an account to pay for expenses related to the household). At the time, the wife's financial situation was "pretty bad" as she was attending graduate school whereas the husband had been well-settled in his career. However, six years into the marriage, the husband threw a tantrum when his wife said she would not void the agreement. He had discovered she earned three times more than him, allowing her to purchase a brand new car in cash. When he made the suggestion, she laughed in his face, prompting her to write about her experience on Reddit's "Am I the *sshole" forum.
Before we marry, we are signing a prenup.— Ms. Christine (@BategaSanta) January 9, 2022
Prenup doesn't necessarily mean that marriage is doomed to fail but it's more like taking an insurance policy.
"Two weeks ago I told [my husband] that I was thinking about buying a new car as [the] one I had was really old since I had had it since my undergraduate days," she explained. "He wasn’t really interested and just told me to get whatever I liked. So a week ago I decided to take the plunge and get an Audi. I was pretty excited as I had always wanted one... [When] I showed him my car, he was really happy for me, however later he asked me what my monthly payments were as the Audi was pretty new." At this point, she told him that she had made the purchase in cash and that she had no monthly payments. He was taken back and did not talk to her after that.
A few hours later, he went back to her and told her that he thinks they should void the prenup. The wife stated, "This is where I might be the *sshole. I laughed in his face and asked him why I would agree to that and his answer was that we’re married and should share our financials. So I told him that we’ve been married for six years and yet we’ve never shared financials and I was fine with what we were doing, and his sudden change of heart was very suspicious. He called me a bunch of names and stormed out and didn’t come home. I guess he told his family about our fight and they called to berate me and say how he supported me while I was in school (he didn’t). Now, [I] am wondering if I was the *sshole."
Overwhelmingly, Reddit users responded to let her know that she was in fact, not the *sshole in this situation. One user wrote, "Not the *sshole. He was happy to treat you like a gold digger until he wanted to become one himself." Another added, "So he wanted the prenup initially to protect his money because you didn’t have much, and now you have more money he wants to void the prenup so he can have more of your money? Hmm. No wonder you laughed in his face. Not the *sshole." While others found it strange that the couple did not share financials, most Redditors believed the wife should understand this incident as a red flag and act accordingly. As it turns out, the prenup protected her too.