Man calls off wedding 48 hours before the ceremony to honeymoon with a side chick. Groomsman responds with an $850 Venmo request
Realizing you're not ready for marriage is one thing, but making your friends pay for it is another
Realizing you are not ready for marriage at 22 years old is completely valid, but pulling the ripcord demands accountability. If you're not sure about a massive life decision, the absolute worst thing you can do is keep everyone committed to a future you're no longer confident about. For a recent college graduate (u/tp323), this exact lesson came at a heavy price, costing him both money and a close friendship. On July 2, he took to Reddit to recall how his friend called off his wedding just two days before the ceremony and went on a honeymoon with a side chick instead. Frustrated, the man blocked the runaway groom and sent him an $850 Venmo request. His post has received over 2,000 upvotes online.
A subtle red flag
The author said his ex-friend met his now ex-fiancée in college. As time passed, the couple grew closer, and their relationship accelerated rapidly. By summer, they got engaged and planned on getting married shortly after graduation. "I was super excited for them... and very honored when I was asked to be a groomsman," the author confessed. Thrilled, he went way over his budget, spending almost $850 to attend his friend's big day. "I was more than happy to cover all these costs because he has always been a close friend to me," the author said.
Everything was going well until six weeks before the wedding when his friend told him about running into an old mate from high school. He told the author that she was single and "still very cool." While the man ignored his friend's remarks, looking back at that, he believes that was "a pretty serious red flag."
The ultimate shock
As time passed, the author could see his friend growing visibly tense, but he dismissed it as wedding jitters. But a day before the wedding, the groom shocked everyone by calling it off. Thunderstruck, the author sent a supportive text to his friend that went unanswered for the next three weeks. However, three weeks after his message, the friend finally replied and apologized for running away without a proper explanation. What shocked the author more was that his friend decided to go to Mexico with the same lady he'd met weeks before his wedding instead of his bride.
"I don't know if he had been talking to her on the down-low the entire time... But to me, it didn't matter at all," he said. Disgusted by this, the author sent his friend an $850 Venmo request, asking for his money back, and blocked his number. "I don't expect him to pay me back, obviously, but I just feel so frustrated with him that I don't want to be his friend anymore but still wanted to send a message," the author added.
Is Gen Z commitment-shy?
Well, getting cold feet before commitment isn't uncommon, especially for Gen Z. In fact, a survey of Americans by Tinder found that only 55% of participants are ready for a romantic relationship. Meanwhile, a staggering 75% said they are in no hurry to find a partner. This comes with prioritizing their career and gaining financial security, emotional wellness, and personal growth before committing to someone long-term. However, the Reddit post suggests that the groom's impulsive decision had more to do with his growing infatuation with another woman than the wedding itself.
'Is he really a friend?'
Meanwhile, reacting to the Reddit post, u/ElkCorrect880 wrote, "His fiancé is a really lucky woman. She doesn’t see it now, but wow, good for her that he flaked. You’re never getting your money back." u/Opheliaalan commented, "If he can do this to a fiancé, imagine what he can do to you. Is he really a friend and the kind of person you want in your life? Cut your losses and run; it will save you money & massive migraines, long-term."
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