Groom wonders if he is wrong to crop out sister-in-law out of wedding photos, sparks debate

It is strange how family dramas inevitably become a part of weddings. If not during the wedding, it kicks off before or even after the wedding. For one newly married man who goes by u/Cold_Natural_3955 on Reddit, it sparked off after the wedding once his wedding pictures arrived. The 28-year-old groom married his love in a pleasant riverside farm wedding and his 30-year-old sister-in-law was part of the bridal party. He pointed out how his sister-in-law has always been a negative person, unlike his wife and the negativity got worse when she wasn't happy with how the wedding pictures turned out.

The man believed his wife included her pessimistic elder sister as one of the bridesmaids only to appease her parents. "SIL and my wife have never been very close. She was at the end of the line of bridesmaids and usually was at the edges of group photos," the groom mentioned. Even during the photo shoot, the sister-in-law constantly complained about the sunny weather and how her dress was "absorbing heat." While everyone ignored her comments on the wedding day, she was furious after receiving the pictures.

"Most people thanked us for the photos, but my SIL called my wife and was very angry, yelling that she 'looked like a fat pig' in every photo she was in and demanded that we not use any of the photos with her in them," the groom explained. He confirmed that his sister-in-law, though bigger than his wife, wasn't overweight to an extreme extent and looked quite similar to her normal self in the pictures. "She reiterated that if we used any photo of her on social media, she would never speak to us again and would 'put us on blast,' whatever that means," he added. So the man decided to crop out the sister-in-law before posting his wedding pictures online and hoped it would be fine because she was on the edge of the pictures anyway.

Little did he know that it would turn into a nightmarish family drama. "She then called me even angrier than before and accused me of trying to 'erase her from the memory of the wedding.' I told her I only did it to accommodate her wishes while also getting to use our own wedding photos," the man pointed out. Despite his explanation, the sister-in-law gave him and his wife a cold shoulder and the man's in-laws were mad at him too. "While my wife is on my side, she thinks I could have been more mature about it," the groom said. In the comments, he added that the sister-in-law expected him to post the pictures where she was originally not included rather than cropping her off. "I don't like the principle that she thinks she can tell us what to post and what not to," he mentioned.

Backing him up, people criticized the sister-in-law for having ridiculous expectations. "Your SIL can't demand you not use your wedding photos. That's entitled on top of entitlement," said u/101037633. "Your SIL sounds exhausting. You can't post wedding pictures that show her, but you also can't post pictures that don't show her," remarked u/VisionAri_VA. "Hate to break it to you, but she's going to behave like this for the rest of eternity. No sense in feeling guilty about this incident because if it weren't this, it would be something else," added u/EZCarter040.