Grieving woman puts her foot down when fiancé tries to add his name to title of house she inherited

Most partners aim to make decisions mutually to maintain a healthy relationship. However, there are times when one might overstep the other's boundaries under the guise of strengthening the bond. A similar situation arose for a woman whose fiancé insisted she make him the co-owner of the house she inherited from her late mother before their marriage. When she refused, he attempted to manipulate the situation, but she immediately shut him down. Seeking advice, she shared her dilemma on Reddit under the username u/SeperateLecture9854.

"I have been with my fiancé Scott for five years. I lost my mom, who was my remaining parent, seven months ago. She left me her house and I became the official owner three months ago," the woman began. "This is when Scott proposed to me and we got engaged, although he wanted to wait before we got engaged, but he said that me owning a house now made him feel like we were ready to be married." She added, "A few days ago, he suggested that I add his name to the title of the house, and he has been persistent about it. He explained that this step was necessary to ensure 'balance in our relationship and marriage' even though I never made him feel like he's inferior or something."

"Oh and I make more money than him, by the way, so I don't get how adding his name onto the house title would change anything. But since he insisted and since we've been together for a long time and we're engaged now, I decided to do it, but only after we got married," she revealed. However, her fiancé wasn’t satisfied. "He disagreed and insisted we get it done before we get married," the woman continued. "After a lot of back and forth on this, I told him to drop it and wait til after marriage." To her shock, the situation escalated. "Yesterday, I was surprised to see that he had brought a real estate lawyer to the house, and not only that, he said he has arranged for the legal process to start now," she wrote. The woman was stunned, as she had never agreed to any of this, let alone having a lawyer visit her home uninvited.

"I immediately asked the lawyer to leave. He tried to speak, but I told him he needed to leave. Scott remained quiet till the lawyer left, then he gave me a look and told me that what I did was selfish and disrespectful not to the lawyer, but to him and what we agreed on," she recounted. "I told him his pushing made me reconsider the whole thing now and he looked shocked and hurt, then stormed out. We continued fighting over the phone and he didn't stop talking about how stubborn and selfish I have been lately. He said he was trying his best to provide a stable living situation for us before we got married, but I was being uncooperative. After that, he completely ignored my calls."

People took to the comments section of the post to support the woman. u/Boady19791a wrote, "Scott is trying to pressure you into something that benefits him. His actions are more about securing his financial position than building a life with you." u/Culatiews1a commented, "He’s acting entitled to something that belongs solely to her. The timing of his proposal after she inherited the house is also suspicious. RUN AND DON'T LOOK BACK!" u/e4l1rs81 remarked, "He's being manipulative. Bringing a lawyer to her house without your consent is a massive violation of trust."