She wondered why her guy friends stopped texting, only to realize her boyfriend had blocked them on Facebook. His excuse made her break it off

Extreme jealousy is often one of the main reasons why relationships don't work. A 22-year-old woman who goes by u/kipperz5 shared how her 28-year-old boyfriend's possessive and controlling self ended their relationship. The original post was shared on March 30, 2015, but was later deleted. The story was then reshared by u/direct-caterpillar77 on July 12, 2026. Well, it all started when, during a group hangout, the woman discovered that her boyfriend had been blocking all her male friends and acquaintances on Facebook without telling her. Things went downhill when she confronted him, and instead of apologizing, the man accused his girlfriend of cheating on him without any evidence.

Intruding on privacy

The author found out that her boyfriend had been blocking male friends after a friend asked if she had deleted her Facebook. He couldn't see her on his friend list anymore and thought she had blocked him. When the woman checked her account, she saw that several of her male friends and acquaintances were blocked. She suspected her boyfriend was behind it since he had been using her computer. During their initial dating stages, he had once expressed his discomfort with one of her guy friends she had some history with. The author understood why he felt that way and promptly blocked the man. However, blocking her other guy friends without her knowledge felt "weird" and "controlling."

The last blow

When the author confronted her boyfriend, he admitted to doing it without any guilt. In fact, the man said he was just protecting her from her male friends. Hurt, the woman wrote, "Does he not think I can handle myself? Again, it just feels like he doesn’t trust me. He told me it’s not a big deal and it’s 'normal' for guys to be 'protective' of their girlfriends but I don’t feel like that at all." A week later, the author shared that she broke up with her boyfriend. At first, she thought they could work it out, but after he blamed her "guilty conscience" for being upset, she knew it was over. The last thing he said to her was, "Fine. Go and be a f****** wh*re then," which reassured her that she was doing the right thing.

Messy breakups

Unfortunately, only a few people can say that their breakup was civil. A 2018 YouGov poll revealed that the majority (58%) of Americans believe breakups are messy and dramatic, whereas only 25% agreed that breakups were civil or casual. Among the age groups surveyed, adults aged 55 and older (63%) were the most likely to consider breakups messy, as compared to those aged 18 to 34 (34%). The numbers proved to be true in the case of the author; she (22 years old) and her boyfriend (28 years old) ended their relationship on a bad note.

 'He’s just insecure'

People were happy that the author broke up with her toxic boyfriend. u/space_age_stuff explained, "He’s saying he doesn’t trust her friends. But he didn’t trust her enough to tell her he blocked her friends; she had to find that information out from her friends because he kept it a secret. He doesn’t regret it, but that’s not really the point: the point is that you can’t trust him." u/desperate_housewolf shared, "Now he’ll tell the next girl that he’s not trying to be controlling; he’s just insecure and has trauma because his last girlfriend cheated on him with multiple men, and he knows because he saw the messages on FB."

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