She thought renting a flat meant she’d escaped living with her fiancé’s mother. Now he’s putting a ‘tiny home’ just 2 metres away
When she tried to speak to her partner, he dismissed her feelings and refused to acknowledge that it should've been a 50-50 decision
Most couples prefer starting a new life away from their families. A bride-to-be on Reddit shared the same dream when her fiancé suggested they move in together before marriage. She agreed but only under one condition: no sharing space with his mom. The author thought she’d finally escaped her future mother-in-law until her fiancé insisted on having a "tiny house" about 2 meters to accommodate his mom. The author vented her frustration over the new arrangement on October 12, 2026.
The moving-in dilemma
When the author first met her fiancé, his mother was living with him in their family home. As their relationship deepened, he asked her to move in with him, but she refused. She made it clear that she would not live with his mother. So, her fiancé moved out, and they rented a small apartment for themselves while his mother continued living in the family house.
When the author first met her fiancé, his mother was living with him in their family home. As their relationship deepened, he asked her to move in with him, but she refused. She made it clear that she would not live with his mother. So, her fiancé moved out, and they rented a small apartment for themselves while his mother continued living in the family house. However, her mother-in-law started getting sick and kept changing houses.
An awkward relationship
In her post, the author explained that her future mother-in-law didn't like her. "She has never made any effort to get to know me. Every time she comes over, she sits there on her phone watching videos on Facebook," she explained. The author also shared that whenever she tried to talk to her mother-in-law, she would only get one-word responses. Moreover, she explained her partner's mom was completely dependent on him. "She doesn't drive and doesn't know how to do basic things like sort her banking, get groceries, or anything really."
Tiny house on the way
Shortly after the couple got engaged, her fiancé proposed moving his mother into a tiny home on the property. She wasn't convinced, but the more she thought about it, the more she hated the idea. But his house was part of the family trust, and the author had no say. A year ago, they had a big argument about his mother living on the property. "I didn't want it. But he went ahead and did it anyway," the author wrote. The house would arrive by the end of October 2026, and their wedding is scheduled for March 2027. The author felt betrayed. When she tried to speak to him, he dismissed her feelings and refused to acknowledge that it should've been a 50-50 decision. The author even considered selling all her belongings and leaving the house.
The co-living clash
People have different opinions about living together with family. A 2021 Pew Research Center study found that most people lived in multigenerational households because of financial issues (67%). Similarly, 46% did so because it was just how things were in the family, and 45% lived in such arrangements to care for a family member or receive care. But not everyone enjoys it. In fact, 23% reported that it was stressful all or most of the time. The author did not want to live with her fiancé's mother because of how overly dependent she was on her son. On top of that, the author wrote, "I feel like she doesn't even like me."
'Your man is a red flag'
Netizens responded to the author's plea for help. They advised her to leave her relationship since her fiancé clearly did not care about her feelings and prioritized his mother over her. u/neener691 suggested, "You need to quietly plan your departure. Cancel wedding plans, tell him you are taking a moment, then save every penny you can, start downsizing your belongings, and then move." u/Embarrassed-Fudge803 wrote, "Leave him immediately. You aren’t remotely a priority to him, and this will only get worse if you have kids. Cut your losses and let baby boy and mommy live together unhappily ever after."
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