12 former poor kids share things they never had that their friends didn't appreciate
Writer Victoria Barrett asked former poor kids to share things they are grateful to have now.
Growing up, I assumed that everyone’s family was like mine. Most of my friends had two parents, but I was raised by my single mom. I never complained—I loved her and appreciated all her sacrifices—but my peers couldn’t understand what it was like to grow up without a second parent. I made my own school lunches, handled household chores, and even went to parent-teacher conferences alone. While my friends grumbled about their strict dads, I couldn’t help but wonder what it would’ve been like to have one. Would he have taught me to ride a bike? Celebrated when I got my driver’s license? Helped with school projects? I had no idea.
When I was older, my mom remarried, and I finally had a dad. And I savored every moment I could with him. Whether it was debating politics, going on late-night runs for ice cream, or learning how to change the oil in our family car, I at long last had a glance at what my life would have been like if I had a father. I was immensely grateful. But not everyone recognizes that they should be grateful for the things they have in their lives. In order to highlight this, writer Victoria Barrett took to Twitter and asked, "Former poor kids: what are some things you have in your house that you never had as a kid, things your not-poor friends would never consider luxuries?" And the responses came flooding in. From the absence of a loving parent to lacking basic necessities like a toilet, individuals shared poignant examples of what they went without—things their friends likely took for granted. If anything, this viral Twitter thread is a wonderful lesson in gratitude.
Also, this is not a "thing," per se, but having pets that you're able to care for responsibly, spay/neuter, and tend to their veterinary needs. I think back at my childhood and it makes me want to cry.
— Martha (@marthakimes) January 20, 2020
Silence—no TV blaring, no one yelling, no babies crying. Peace—no one is angry or stressed because of our home. Safety—no sense of danger or insecurity. Those intangible things stand out more than the material objects.
— Erica Waters (@ELWaters) January 20, 2020
Snacksss omg. Not eating the same thing over and over until you get sick of it. Having the option to eat healthy. Eating out at non-chain restaurants. Clothes that fit (harder being plus sized as a kid)
— assata shakoochie 🌱 (@sailorfemme) January 21, 2020
Oh my goodness, where to begin? So many things. A toilet, for starters. My family couldn’t afford to install indoor plumbing until I was 19 and no longer living at home.
— Cheryl Strayed (@CherylStrayed) January 20, 2020
Air conditioning, dishwasher, disposable stuff like paper towels to clean with instead of rags that were shirts or socks, ice maker, and I would add the tangential luxury of good grocery stores in an easy commute with good produce and international food.
— Lesley Carhart (@hacks4pancakes) January 20, 2020
Having enough toilet paper. My kids think I am weird and that's okay. They don't know that toilet paper was my kleenex, my paper towels, my cotton balls, my toilet paper. I strive to never run out and feel that I am very fortunate while doing it.
— FeralTwin (@FeralTwin) January 20, 2020
I don't have kids (a choice that is much more feasible for me to make than it was for my mother, socially and financially) but I've found 'when do you change a diaper?' is a huge indicator. The answer for helping care for my youngest sibling was 'when it's about to start leaking'
— Just Amanda *🎨🖌️daily quotes from kids in cages* (@juuust_amanda) January 21, 2020
Bulk items. We never had space or money to stock up on stuff like we do now. & a washer and dryer.
— *Linda in Italics* 🇩🇴 (@linluv5) January 20, 2020
Stairs. I was convinced that only mansions had more than one floor.
— Stacey Filak, recovering from ConFusion (@staceyfilak) January 20, 2020
My wife couldn't understand why I only eat cereal dry, and when I explained that growing up we never had liquid milk in the house she got really quiet. I don't think she fully understood just how poor I was growing up until then.
— Too Big To Fail (@Too_Big_To_Fail) January 20, 2020
Only using ziplock bags once. My mom washed and rewashed ziplock bags over and over until they got holes in them. We kept them in a pumpkin jar on the counter. Didn't know this wasn't the norm til I got older
— Sarah writes SPOOKY stories 🎃🍁🧛 (@therosebride) January 20, 2020
This article originally appeared 4 years ago.
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