The woman had already agreed with her partner that a prenup wasn't needed but her prospective mother in law wasn't having it.
Discussing prenups can be a little awkward because you are basically detailing what happens to finances and assets in the event of divorce. There are many arguments for and against prenuptial agreements, but there's no denying that it's the couple that should ultimately make the call. In one particular case, a prospective mother-in-law embarrassed herself after trying to pressure his son's fiancée into signing a prenuptial agreement. The woman revealed she was actually richer than her son, and had no grand designs to get his money, as the woman had suggested.
The woman had opened up on Reddit and asked if it was rude to reveal she was richer than him, despite being badgered to sign a prenup by her fiancé’s mom. She asked if she was wrong for "emasculating" my (32F) fiance (38M) in front of his family. "My fiance and I have been together for about six years, engaged for two. After we got engaged, we sat down and had the "deal breakers" talk. Basically things in our lives, our futures, hypothetical situations that leave little room for compromise (ie adopting children, finances, family boundaries, religion etc,)" she wrote.
As far as she was concerned, she didn't want to enter into a marriage where they were preparing for divorce. "One of the things on my list was no prenup. I'm not here to debate with anyone about their use, I just think that if you're preparing for a divorce before even getting married, it's a sign that you're probably marrying the wrong person. He agreed and everything was fine," she wrote.
The woman assumed the matter was settled, but her partner's mother kept bringing it up, pushing her to sign a prenup. "I've told her no many times, said this is an issue between us and we will discuss it privately and make our own decisions as a couple. He also tells her no, although more weakly," she wrote. It all came to a head when she went to his place for dinner and her partner's mother had a prenup drafted by her lawyer ready. "She put it in front of me after dinner and told me to sign. Obviously, I didn't even read it let alone sign it," she wrote, before adding, "She called me a gold digger. No one, including my fiance, stood up for me so I stood up for myself."
"I told her that there is no gold to dig here: I make four times as much as he makes (I'm an MD and he dropped out in the second year). I've paid off all my student debt (he has over 100K left), I have my own house, ample savings, and will certainly inherit more from my parents than he will from his (they have 6 kids and are middle class)," she said to a stunned audience that her fiance's family. "That shut her up real quick especially when my sister-in-law then said, "if anything, he's the gold digger here."
While she had convinced her prospective mother-in-law about not needing a prenup, her insecure boyfriend didn't take it well. "My fiance is now angry with me. He said it was emasculating for his family to know I'm so much more successful than him and his brothers are making jokes and changed his contact info to "gold digger," she wrote, asking if she had done anything wrong.
Reddit overwhelmingly took her side, adding that she did no wrong. "If he wanted to not be “emasculated” by OP stating facts, he should have put an end to this before she needed to," they wrote. Another person commented, "If you don't want to feel emasculated, then stand up for your fiance. Have her back, defend her, don't just cower under whatever mommy says or wants. You're a grown-ass man, act like it. And be proud of your woman while you're at it."