'Being the most important man in her life... that’s your privilege now.'
Bound by care, protection, and unconditional love, the bond between a father and daughter is unfathomable. However, the dynamics in this relationship shift slightly when the daughter brings home a boy she wishes to marry, who promises to provide her with the same care, protection, and unconditional love she has received throughout her upbringing. We can feel a fraction of this profound emotion through a giving-away speech by the bride, Phillipa’s father, at her wedding. Melbourne-based wedding videographer Jamie Ross — who goes by the username @jamierossweddings on Instagram — shared the heartfelt video.
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Phillipa and Will got married in a beautiful ceremony surrounded by family and friends — Lake House Weddings shared pictures on their Instagram. While they had their special people giving loving speeches and showering them with blessings for a beautiful future together, Phillipa’s dad’s giveaway speech, however, became the highlight. He joked about how, ever since Phillipa’s childhood, he had always been the one she ran to for some extra money for a concert ticket or dinner with friends, or called him to give her a ride back home when she was out drinking with friends. He explained that all that was essentially Will’s “job” now.
The jokes soon turned into tearful confessions as he expressed how Phillipa used to always run to him with special news, hoping he would be the first person to hear it. That, too, would be Will’s “privilege” now. Her dad broke down while expressing how Will would be the person to hold her when she was scared, worried, or sad, and that he would become the most important person in his daughter’s life going forward. In only a few words, he captured the true essence of the shifting relationship between a father and daughter as she gets married and her priorities change. This not only left the bride teary-eyed but also had the groom shed a few tears.
A study by Wanwen Tang reveals that when the relationship between a father and daughter is secure and positive, it helps her grow immensely in all aspects of her life as an adult, including emotional development, self-reliance, and choice of spouse. Another study by Qian Xu and others talks about a theory introduced by Freud, which explains how the childhood relationship between a daughter and her father often influences her future relationship with her spouse. This explains how a lot of the security, safety, and love that a father provides to his daughter often becomes the bedrock they build the rest of their life on.
After watching the wholesome video, viewers had a lot to say. @restoring_the_rectory expressed, “That’s the most wonderful father's speech I have ever heard,” while @caitiekmusic commented, “‘Being the most important man in her life now, that’s your privilege now.’ Oh, I’m a mess.” @stuartvideoproductions shared a personal experience, “As a wedding Videographer who’s shot over 1500 weddings, it takes a lot to get me teary, but man, this guy nailed it,” and @dragonlaseralex wrote, “Everyone is crying. You’re crying, the dad is crying, the bride and groom are crying, and guests are crying. So sweet.” Finally, @lemengs wrote while being nervous about his future: “Privilege of 'Being the most important man in your life…' That one hit me hard, being a dad of 4 daughters. Yeah… Something to be prepared.”
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