Ex’s wife dishes out snarky comment about woman being single, can’t take it when woman claps back

Ending a serious relationship on good terms is usually not an easy thing. It gets more complicated when the ex gets involved with someone new. A woman took to Reddit to share her story along the same lines. She expressed that she moved on from her ex, but remained mutual friends with him. As they met each other quite often in mutual group settings, she knew his wife. But on one fine day, the wife made a snarky remark on her relationship status, forcing her to clap back. The woman, u/Chance-Persimmon-264, then asked the internet if her response was too harsh.

For context, the ex-girlfriend revealed, "My ex and I broke up 5 years ago after a year-long relationship, he broke up with me and I took it very hard back then. I can't say I did anything crazy, aside from a few weeks after the breakup, getting really drunk on a night out and sending him some embarrassing texts." It was the worst heartbreak of her life and her ex made it tougher by constantly asking her to be friends. She eventually put her foot down and asked for space to heal.

"Anyway, that's all in the past. I can confidently say that I have indeed healed from that and am over him. He recently got married to a girl he started dating 2 months after we broke up. Honestly, I'm happy for him. Good for them. Me, on the other hand, I've dated since then but haven't been able to find anyone worth marrying; I haven't even had another serious relationship since him," the woman continued. "He's still in the periphery of my social circle because we still have a lot of mutual friends from uni. And sometimes I see both of them in social settings," she added.

The ex-boyfriend and the woman have left things behind and are civil to each other in group settings even though they don't have any contact outside of that. "His wife and I have always treated each other with polite disinterest. I know she really doesn't like me. An important note about her is that she's been unemployed for a long time. I don't know if it's because she wants to be a stay-at-home wife (a completely valid choice if that's her thing!) or because she's been unable to find work, but she hasn't worked in many years despite having a masters degree," the person pointed out.

On the other hand, the woman has advanced quite a lot in her career through her dedication and hard work. She is quite ahead compared to people her age and admits that she is proud of where she has reached in life. The issue between the woman and her ex's wife began when their friends group met for drinks. Both of them were present at the table when someone asked the woman if she was seeing someone. 

"I replied, 'No, not right now.' My ex's wife quickly made a snarky comment, 'Aw, it's okay, some people just stay single,' in front of everyone. Like 10 of our friends. Without missing a beat, I blurted out, 'Yeah just like some people are meant to stay unemployed.'" This made the wife really upset. She got up, started crying and left. "Her husband messaged me that I should apologize to her for embarrassing her. I said I would if she apologized first. He said she refused because what I said was worse, apparently," the woman concluded.

People took to the comments to back the woman. u/judingA-holes wrote, "You are not wrong. Don't insult or comment on something unless you are prepared for something to be said back to you. She clearly wanted to dish it but not take it, and that's not how most of the world works. What's the worst that's going to happen? They aren't going to talk to you when you are in the same social circle? My guess is that you could care less if they do or don't."  

While u/shy-ally remarked, "It shouldn't be a competition of which was the worse insult, but I would think finding a life partner is harder than finding a job. So no matter how you look at it, the wife was the aggressor, had the most spiteful insult, and is now trying to play the victim in the situation." u/GonnaBeOverIt added, "She was being petty, it was a deliberate remark and she completely had it coming to her."