Expert reveals red flags to watch out for in your partners that can lead to divorce

Putting an end to a relationship is never easy, especially when you are divorcing your longtime spouse. However, life goes on and you have to learn how to navigate your healing journey after divorce. It is where divorce recovery coach Leah Marie Mazur—who goes by @mindfullyready on TikTok—comes in as she has made an insightful video for all the folks going through relationship troubles who are on the verge of divorce or are already divorced. Mazur teaches her viewers how to focus on self-love and set boundaries in case they are interested in stepping into another relationship.

According to her, one thing everyone needs to do is learn how to identify the red flags early on in a relationship. "What is a red flag for you now that wasn't before your divorce?" Mazur started her video by addressing a question she had tossed at the members of her support group. The answers might help others identify the concerning traits in their partners, which need rectification otherwise, a relationship will not last in the long run.

"Manipulative crying and always playing the victim," Mazur reveals the first answer from her support group members. "Having an extremely close family that looks innocent but that's actually codependent, enabling and very unhealthy. They don't think birthdays or holidays are important and they put on a show for their friends and family, but they are totally different people around you." The next thing she mentions is how a person who is a red flag always "walks ahead of their partners instead of walking along with them."

"Someone who bashes their friends and family but never tells them that to their face,” she revealed a bunch of other complaints from her support group. "Someone who declares themselves as a patriot when their actions never align with their words. Someone who claims to love traveling but doesn't own a passport, or someone who claims to love dogs but doesn't have a dog." She adds another red flag about people who always "put work before their family." "Heavy drinking and someone who calls all of their exes psychos or other names and never holds himself accountable or takes responsibility for anything that went wrong in their past relationships," Mazur continues.

"Someone who has no friends and having to comfort them when they upset you," Mazur concluded and prompted others to share their thoughts on certain things that appear as a red flag to them in a relationship. @notsoswtcyn wrote, "Someone that is always doing favors for friends, but when you ask for something, they ask what will I get out of this." @indigo.runner commented, "Not being able to state their needs and wants instead gives you the silent treatment and/or not taking time in between long-term relationship or a marriage before dating." 

@memesaremylovelanguage quipped, "Interrupting me whenever I was speaking. Communication often leaves me more confused. Never apologizing." @teddybarrow1 mentioned, "I thought his mom was crazy (like he was saying she was) when she warned me I was too good for her son. Red flag: family warning you to stay away!" @krymsendawn remarked, "Did nothing in our household except go to work and get overly critical about what the other person does or doesn't do but refuses to help." @mzlucyliz added, "Someone who never expresses their emotions because they don't want to make you mad or yell at you. Yeah, nice to start with, but it burns that communication."