Exhausted mom asks if she's wrong to blame her husband for opening toddler's present without her

One of the most wonderful things about having your own family is being able to make new traditions and rituals special only to y'all. While the bigger things in life do matter, the greatest joy often comes from the smaller, more intimate things in life. That's why one couple was excited when their kid got excited for Christmas because that meant they would be able to start their traditions. However, in the story posted by the mother u/BornTailor6184, things didn't go as well as anticipated. 

The wife begins by saying that she and her husband, both of whom are 35 years old, have been married for four years. They have two little kids, one son who is just 3 months old and another son who is 2 years old. This year was the first time when the 2-year-old was excited about Christmas because he was finally at an age where he could understand some parts of what was happening. Hence, the couple have been telling him about Santa Klaus, decorating the tree together, as well as wrapping family gifts together. 

The woman goes on to explain how her husband had recently shown a lot of interest in making traditions. She wrote, "My husband has been talking a lot about building family traditions for the kids, which I thought was lovely." She also mentions that since her family has a German background, they usually open gifts from family on Christmas Eve with her parents and brother. That's always been the case and that's what she did. She then went on to pacify her youngest son as he was throwing a tantrum. However, she was clueless about what awaited her the next morning. She explained that since Christmas Eve was a rough night for her due to the 3-month-old, she slept in a little later than usual on Christmas. However, it was not late since she was awake by 7:45 am. She then realized that the toddler had been awake since 6 am which resulted in her husband being awake as well. 

Then came the sad news. She said, "I got up to discover that my husband had opened up the presents from Santa with my toddler already, which has left me devastated." She said how she felt tremendously excluded as well as robbed of seeing the joy on her firstborn's face upon opening the gift that she had picked out for him. She was hurt that neither did her husband ask the toddler to wait to open the gifts until she woke up nor did he wake her up if the kid was unwilling to wait. The husband also went on to tell her that this whole gift-opening moment was quite a special father-son moment. This just hurt her more, because she felt like an afterthought when her husband thinks of family. She ends her story by saying, "I’ve been holding back tears all day for the sake of the toddler." Like they say - once a mom, always a mom. 

While the comment section sympathized with the wife, some also gave solutions. u/ChipmunkWonderful642 said, "That is possibly one of the most inconsiderate things a husband can do. If my husband did that to me, I would be royally pissed, and I would never dream of doing that to him either. Christmas is family time, opening presents is something the whole immediate family should be gathered for. You need to talk to your husband once the kids are asleep and let him know how cruel that was, especially at that age when they finally start to understand the whole present thing."