He was ready for alimony to end when his ex-wife asked for $900 extra per month — while her live-in boyfriend wouldn’t ‘voluntarily contribute’
When he asked about the live-in boyfriend, his ex said, 'It is not his financial responsibility.'
Every relationship hits a rough patch. A man (u/ok_dragonfly_7580) experienced it when his ex-wife threw a stubborn tantrum, demanding that he continue paying alimony to her after the end of the court term. He had been paying her both the alimony and child support since 2023, after the divorce. But just before the end of the alimony term, his ex-wife insisted he continue to pay $900 to support her and their three children. The problem, as the author said, is that his ex has a live-in boyfriend who refuses to contribute anything to the household. His November 4, 2026, post has received over 4,000 upvotes.
The shocking demand
The narrator separated from his wife in 2023. Ever since then, they have maintained a good co-parenting relationship. But lately, arguments have arisen between him and his ex. In his post, he explained that his wife wants him to continue paying $900 in alimony even after the end of the term. “Essentially, she wants me to make up the difference so her monthly income remains the same,” he described. And although he works in the military and his ex is the primary custodial parent of their three children, he is hesitant to pay the amount for a reason.
The unpaid houseguest
Recently, his ex’s boyfriend had moved in with her. Although the author doesn’t have any animosity toward him, he is detested by the fact that her ex doesn't want her boyfriend to contribute to household expenses. She told him, "It is not his financial responsibility.” Commenting on the situation, the author said, “While I understand that their relationship and financial arrangements are ultimately none of my business, I find it a little difficult to wrap my head around the situation.”
According to Luber Law Offices, a person is not obligated to pay alimony after the court-ordered term ends. The term usually lasts for one-third of the length of the marriage. Plus, it is paid only when the spouse is not self-sufficient; otherwise, it can be terminated. It is only in marriages lasting more than 20 years that the alimony is paid indefinitely by the divorced partner.
‘Insane and embarrassing’
Most readers are against the author continuing to pay his ex alimony. u/agirlsknowsthings said, “You would essentially be helping her boyfriend live there for free. I get him not contributing to kids' needs but not paying rent or bills? Anywhere else he lived, he would be paying rent and bills. I wouldn’t continue the alimony. If she’s ok with her guy taking financial advantage of her, then she has to support him, not you.” u/plz_dont_perceive_me remarked, “In her words, it's not his financial responsibility? It isn't yours, either. She's an adult; it's hers.”
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