Divorce coach explains why co-parents should stop fighting over their children's clothes

Divorced parents often have to remain in some sort of relationship with each other for the sake of their children. Mainly, they have to co-parent together and communicate with each other constantly about whatever's happening in their child's life.

However, many times one parent begins to feel that they are doing way more than the other. Divorce coach Samantha Boss (@theuglytruthofdivorce) addressed such scenarios in a recent video shared online and made a valuable suggestion concerning the children who get caught in between. "Please put in your parenting plan that both households are going to provide the clothes unless you are in a long-distance type situation," she says in the now-viral video.

Boss has two TikTok accounts under the usernames @TheUglyTruthofCoParenting and @TheUglyTruthofDivorce. In one of the videos, she spoke about the children of divorced parents having two different wardrobes at each parent's home and how it causes confusion and tension for the youngsters.

However, she received a lot of angry responses to the video, prompting her to share another video on her divorce channel on clothes and how to make this a part of the co-parenting plan. "The argument we're having over my other TikTok page @theuglytruthofcoparenting is just astonishing to me. The bitterness that so many people are stitching me and dueting about these clothes that they're so hell-bent on keeping at their house because they've spent the money on it," Boss says in her video.

She continues, "Are any of you stopping to think about what it would be like to be a child that has to carry an extra book bag to and from school? Have you thought about what it would be like as a child to have to stop what you're doing on Sunday night before you go back to the other parent and change your clothes just because this parent says, 'Well, you have to go put that outfit on because that's what you came here in.' These kids didn't pick this scenario, but these two adults are making the child—what the child wears, what the child carries—pay the price for their bitterness. Their bitterness."

The video has gained about 433.7k views and 36.4k likes on TikTok and is captioned, "Provide the clothes." Some parents still defended why their kids have separate wardrobes in each parent's house. @nikkibelsham commented, "Sometimes it’s not about being bitter, it’s about constantly buying clothes cause what you bought never is seen again." @lizzybump wrote, "It’s just wanting to get the clothes back so you have items for them to wear! I can’t buy clothes and shoes weekly. That’s my issue when asking." @amac1402 expressed, "That only works if both parents agree and provide clothes of similar quality. Not one buying decent fitting clothes and then not seeing them again."

However, some parents still agreed with what Sam shared. @aussiennzland commented, "My ex and I have a joint account which we both put money into each week. That account is for all the kids must have... clothes, school, sports, etc." @ambernicole2008 said, "I personally think the clothes belong to my child, not me. I’m not wearing them. I will never understand fighting over clothes." @mermaidsoul wrote, "AMEN! I have always told my girls what I buy them belongs to THEM, they are free to take it. Do I buy extra clothes-yes, do they have less stress-YES!"