Development coach shares tips on how people can remind themselves of their worth periodically

Self-worth plays an important role when it comes to the hustle of life. Knowing that one is invaluable and far more precious than others declare greatly affects one’s approach to life. Self-worth determines how a person allows themselves to be treated, what a person feels they deserve and more. It is also closely connected with the respect and behavior one tolerates from others. Developmental coach Amy Millie (@itsamymillie) shared bits of advice one can give to themselves to serve as a constant reminder of their self-worth. In her video on TikTok, she shared how one can constantly enhance their life experiences by not undermining their self-worth.

“Here’s some advice I periodically give to myself when I want to remind myself of my worth,” Millie said. Getting straight to it, she said, “If it’s costing my peace again and again and again, it’s too expensive.” She then shared her next bit of advice which was closely related to the authenticity one has. “Not everyone has the same heart as you and you can’t expect them to,” Millie explained. Her next insight was based on the need to be assertive and listen to one’s needs. “Stop neglecting your needs and saying yes when you mean no,” she said. She added to her statement by saying, “Doing something for a person with resentment doesn’t make you a better person.”

Moving on, Millie spoke about focusing on one’s behavior and tolerance level with certain experiences and scenarios. “If the same people keep letting you down again and again, you need to ask yourself why you keep allowing it,” she suggested. She strongly emphasized, “You don’t need to spend your life making people feel comfortable, it’s not your job.” Adding to this, Millie also explained that one doesn’t have to be responsible for the emotions of others and how they feel. In her next tip, Millie urged people to avoid lying to themselves and convincing themselves that something is not bothering them when it is.

Sharing another important point in addition, she said, “Cutting yourself off from pain also cuts you off from enjoying pleasurable feelings like joy.” She then weighed in, saying something everyone needs to hear. “Let it hurt if it hurts,” she said. Her next bit of advice focused on normalizing the feeling of anger. Millie clarified that a person is not dramatic for feeling anger. “Every single person on this planet experiences feelings of anger, some people are just really good at repressing it,” she revealed. Lastly, she encouraged the idea of taking a moment for self-pity. However, she also stressed the need to “not stay there too long.” “You’re not the victim of your life,” she concluded.

In her caption, Millie wrote, “I like reparenting myself. I feel like I’m a good parent to my younger self.” Commenters were grateful for the coach’s advice and felt that simple reminders like these are crucial when life gets hard. Many others also expressed themselves, saying that Millie's advice hit home and was just what they needed to hear. @above_thecanopy said, “Thank you! I need this for my newest ventures.” @jenniehart0 said, “I regret not listening to my boundaries and allowing myself to be treated that way instead of being loved.”