Woman leaves husband after losing weight thinking she can do better — and then starts to regret it

Overconfidence leads to impulsive decisions, and those can lead people to make silly mistakes. While some can reverse those hastily drawn conclusions, others struggle to find redemption for their errors. Something similar happened to a woman after her newly found confidence led her into a conflict with her husband. Months after filing for a divorce, her “disappointed” partner—who goes by u/Letmebealonehuh on Reddit—claimed she regretted her decision to leave him and wanted them to get back together. 

In a widely circulating post, the 32-year-old husband sought “validation” from the online community just days before finalizing his divorce. In the aftermath of his life turning upside down, the man recalled having shared a “great marriage” with his wife, who was one year older than him. After four years of staying together, he wrote, “I was madly in love with my wife. She fell into depression mainly due to her job in 2022.” The man did everything in his power to turn things around for his depressed partner by standing behind her as solid support. “I tried to support her in every way and suggested she go to the gym or do any kind of sports to destress,” the husband said, adding that he had his own episode of depression before tying the knot with his wife.

“However, what saved me was the habit of going to the gym.” Even his partner agreed, and the couple started working out together. Despite all his efforts, the man could not consistently visit the gym following his promotion. “I could not go as frequently as in the past since my workload got heavier after my promotion,” the husband explained. But his wife, who used to be “a bit chubby,” remained consistent after seeing some changes in her body. “It also helped her with depression, and she got better. I was really happy to see her get better and lively,” said the husband while appreciating his wife’s confidence levels. After a while, her confidence started affecting their relationship “for worse.”

“She started going to parties and going outside to a point where she completely stopped doing her share in the house,” the post read, further revealing an incident that started a full-blown quarrel. The man went on to claim that he saw his wife “getting flirty with a guy” at a meetup they both attended. He felt disgusted and communicated his feelings to her, leading to a dismissive response from her side. “I had her sit down with me and told her that she is riding high on her newly found confidence and emotions right now. I clearly stated she should not make decisions or actions based on that confidence right now,” the husband said, describing himself as a victim of her “worst traits.” Being an emotional person, he suggested they both go to marriage counseling.

“Hell broke loose,” said the man after finding himself on the receiving end of things. His wife claimed to have settled down with him after getting better while admitting she had better choices than him. Suddenly, he was no longer the ideal husband and was probably an “insecure” man. The man stated, “This woman used to be the sweetest person on Earth, and I was shocked after hearing the things she said to me.” He never heard from his wife again as she ghosted him after filing for divorce. “Our court hearing is scheduled for next month, and my lawyer told me there is a high chance it'll be concluded then,” the post elaborated, further stating that there was not much between the couple to share as they both had similar incomes, savings, and the only shared asset they had was a joint account.

“I accepted that my marriage was going to end like this,” the husband said, claiming to have received a phone call from his wife last week. “She called crying and told me she regrets everything. She apologized over and over again, but I felt disappointed. Not angry, not sad, but just disappointed,” he added. Since the filing of their divorce, he had no clue about her whereabouts. “I told her there is no going back now. She has been messaging me non-stop,” he concluded, emphasizing that both their families were divided and had polarized opinions. The husband’s post drew widespread attention on social media, including countless reactions. “It didn’t work out with the ‘better’ guy she wanted to leave you for, so now she wants to go back to the safe option,” commented u/manykeets. “It’s like she met someone else and was waiting for the tiniest excuse to leave and be with the new person,” u/IronSeguin wrote.