Daughter decides to go ahead with her wedding after mom fails to show up on time, asks if she did wrong

Being punctual is considered a crucial personality trait at work or in personal life. However, sticking to time is a matter of personal choice; not everyone adheres to a strict schedule. The same happened to a woman after her daughter decided to tie the knot in her absence because she was late. Unlike her mom, the recently married daughter—who goes by u/HunterQueen23 on Reddit—believed timeliness to be sacrosanct and expected her guests to feel the same way. But her own mother, the organizer of the wedding, did not show up on time, leaving the bride with no choice but to go ahead with the ceremony on her own. Her choice to go forward with the wedding without waiting for her family has left the internet divided. 

“(Am I at fault) for starting my wedding ceremony before my mom showed up?” the bride wrote, seeking multiple POVs about the situation. She began by recalling how her special day started on time, without any major delays. “The day of the wedding started out as they normally do; I was inside getting ready, and final touches were being made outside.” Thereafter, the woman of the moment shared how she was almost ready, as opposed to her mom, who still hadn't gotten dressed for the occasion. 

“After I was almost ready by noon, my mom had to run back to the hotel 20 minutes away to change and come back with my grandma and a family friend,” the bride explained. Notably, the wedding invitation clearly stated that the ceremony was scheduled to begin at 2 o’clock in the afternoon. She reiterated, “The invitation says ceremony at 2; as per usual, we were a little late starting but nothing crazy.” The next thing she noticed was that there was no sight of her mom, grandma or any other family friend. The bride shared that her wedding officiant was on a strict schedule as they had to be elsewhere. “Next thing I know I’m walking myself down the aisle with no mom, grandma, or family friend in sight.” The ceremony continued, and it was over before her mom or close ones could arrive.

“Still nothing. After 45 minutes, finally, they pull up. Then, I proceed to go and tell them it’s over and that they missed it,” she shared. Her mother immediately became hostile and proceeded to blame the bakery for not having buns ready. The upset mom then suggested that they were stopped by a train. However, the bride found all of these excuses irrelevant, and her personal favorite among them was: “It’s your fault you didn’t call or text to see where we are.” “Excuse me!! Again, the invitation said two,” the bride’s post added. She later found out that her mom was late because her mom wasn't done getting ready, making everyone late in the process.

“But she is mad at me because it’s my fault,” she said, inviting a variety of reactions. Among them, u/sapient-meerkat remarked, “If she could receive a text, she could send a text. It's not up to the bride or groom to keep track of family on their wedding day.” “That's not her job. The maid of honor, the wedding planner, but not the bride,” u/Lizdance40 agreed. “It seems that your mom is a bit of a diva and wanted to make a grand (look at ME!) late entrance,” u/Gizmodevilcat assumed. “I'd be well aware of my closest family’s whereabouts before starting the ceremony, but maybe that's just me,” u/sidNX0 offered a different perspective. "You could send something like 'ceremony starts in 5min' but it isn't going to be much help." u/Cayke_Cooky noted.