The dad believes that being at home, handling kids and all the household chores, is not a difficult task for women.
Stay-at-home moms (STAH) not only have to take care of their kids but also manage all the household chores. It is a challenging work where, often, they do not even get time for themselves. They dedicate every minute of their day to maintaining a proper lifestyle for everyone at home. However, not all understand this and often disregard the efforts of STAH moms. Jared Sayre - a dad who goes by @racksandtracks on TikTok– has outraged many across social media with his argument that being a stay-at-home mom "is not a job" but a "privilege."
"Do you know how many single moms out there have jobs and have to come and do your job?" he asks in a clip that has now been taken down. He then goes on to narrate his personal experience, "I was laid off from work and I had to stay at home for 4 months and it's the easiest s*** I've ever done in my life. I can do all the daily responsibilities that come with taking care of a house in no time." Besides that, he mentions that stay-at-home moms are only left with watching their kids after completing their chores.
The man opines, "I'm not knocking stay-at-home moms. I have respect for them and I honestly think we need more of them because it's good for the kid." After this, Sayre begins to compare it with a full-time job. "You can't take a nap at a full-time job. You can't watch TV at a full-time job. You have someone watching you at a full-time job demanding you do what they say." Though the original video is not available anymore, people continue to have discussions about the matter.
Moreover, in a follow-up video, Sayre called the backlash "comical" and made more comments on stay-at-home moms. "If you just cook, clean and take care of your kids, it's not that big of a deal," he said and insisted it is the responsibility of moms.
Responding to Sayre in a stitched video, a man named Dustin Poyner–who goes by @dustinpoynter on TikTok–had some important points to highlight. He showed a massive red flag to show his disagreement and concern over Sayre's comments. "I am more frustrated than a mosquito sucking on a statue!" Poynter expressed. He shared that he does not have kids but grew up with a stay-at-home mom and younger siblings. "I witnessed firsthand the stress that comes with maintaining an entire house— Olympic diving across the kitchen to save your child from putting its hand in the garbage disposal 50 times a day, listening to constant screaming meltdowns," said Poynter.
He goes on to say that the moms also have the responsibility to ensure that they do not "cause irrevocable physical and psychological harm to an innocent human being who didn't ask to be here. So let's not play contrarian to things that we have zero experience in," Poynter concluded. While talking to TODAY, Poynter said, "What really bothered me is that he was putting people down for no reason. He was trying to discredit a person's hard work and make them feel bad. That's not OK." The video garnered nearly 1 million views on the platform. It is captioned, "Just talking right outta your red flag."
People in the comments section were outraged by Sayre's opinion on stay-at-home moms. @ashleysanchez05 commented, "Wait a minute... stay-at-home moms are watching TV and taking naps. I must be doing this wrong." @melissacollier07 shared, " I've been both. Being a stay-at-home mom is way harder." @masayume85 said, "Someone leave him alone with at least two kids under 5 for a week and see how he does." @jennieparkinson2905 asserted, "Being a mother is the hardest job I have ever done, it's the best job but the most demanding and it's a privilege to do."
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