A dad's concern for his kids' privacy led to his wife accusing him of not supporting her dreams of becoming an influencer.
In today's digital world, being an influencer has become a full-time job for many. From endorsing products to making meaningful content, social media sites have enabled people to become influencers in a much more accessible manner. But people can often take it too far in the name of content creation. Reddit user u/throwrasutwy recently shared a story about his wife who decided to feature their kids in her videos on social media. The post has managed to gain over 22.6k upvotes on the platform with over 374 comments.
The individual states that their wife had always wanted to be an influencer on TikTok and YouTube. They wrote: "She has been creating mommy content and content about her day-to-day life." The husband supported her dream with the one condition that she did not include their children in her online content. Saying this, the husband did not really keep up with what his wife was posting because he didn't think it was necessary.
The husband eventually decided to check out his wife's channel, as he thought it would be "cute" to see what she posted. Unfortunately, the husband discovered that his wife has been featuring their children in her content. Being severely opposed to this, he told her that she must remove all of her content to safeguard their children. The wife refused to do it because she didn't think it was a "big deal."
The husband talks about how the dynamic between children and parents changes in such scenarios, saying that interactions would become "performative." He provided an actual example of this, saying that his wife's first instinct when their 2-year-old begins to cry is to grab the incident on camera and make a "how to get a 2-year-old out of a tantrum" video rather than comfort the child. Hearing this, the wife began to cry and said that deleting all of her content would ruin her dream. However, the husband is adamant about not wanting their kids used to make content and threatened to consider divorce if she is not willing to delete everything.
The individual says that he knows a lot of people who share photos of their kids on social, which he believes is fine. However, he feels that sharing videos was too "intimate." He states later on to his Reddit audience that he is not comfortable with his wife recording their children when they throw a tantrum and when they are in diapers. However, his wife got agitated about his demand and began to hint about having a "controlling and narcissistic husband" on her social media accounts. The husband shared that he's been getting ridiculed by her friends for his firm stance, but he continues to believe that sharing intimate videos of their children on social media is not okay.
People on the platform sided with the husband and shared their views in the comments section. u/7h0wn said, "NTA. People who make profits from their kid's misery are the AH's here and it seems like your wife is more interested in being a TikTok celebrity than being a caring wife and mother. No one should ever be shilling out their kids for likes and imaginary internet points."
Another Reddit user, u/Less_Scheme6244, commented, "NTA, especially given all of the controversy with 'parent' influencers right now. If she wants to post herself, that's fine, but she should've consulted you before posting your children." u/Silent_Opposite_9110 pointed out, "NTA, children should not be on videos for obvious reasons."