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Dad shares unpopular opinion on why marriages are hard and parents find it '100 percent accurate'

Justin is a dad who is firm on the idea that marriages are often hard but partners are not responsible for it and he's made quite a point.

Dad shares unpopular opinion on why marriages are hard and parents find it '100 percent accurate'
Cover Image Source: TikTok|@drumbeatlane

Committing to marriage is a crucial responsibility that requires dire thought and consideration. Married couples often face conflicts and challenges that can have vivid reasons behind them. So, when TikTok creator (@liveroniandcheese) asked married couples to explain why "marriage is hard," this dad (@drumbeatlane) took the opportunity. He shared a video with a rather conflicting opinion on what makes marriage hard. He mentioned that marriage being hard has nothing to do with him or his partner but involves a third factor. There was quite an interesting debate on fellow couples' opinions. 

Image Source: TikTok|@drumbeatlane
Image Source: TikTok|@drumbeatlane

“It’s the children, the children make it hard. I don’t care how much you love and care for somebody; when you almost constantly have the added pressure of small humans demanding your attention, time and energy, it is hard to be a good, kind, patient, loving and attentive partner,” Justin said. Elaborating further, the dad confirmed that he wasn’t trying to imply that parenting isn’t worth it or that one shouldn’t have kids. He too is a dad and loves his kids. “I am just saying, when you have kids, it drastically reduces the ability to be an attentive and engaging partner,” he said.

Image Source: TikTok|@drumbeatlane
Image Source: TikTok|@drumbeatlane

The dad built up his words by explaining that with kids a lot is frustrating and exhausting, hence giving time and attention to one’s partner becomes harder. Justin acknowledged that certain parents have no issues with their kids or marriage but he said, “There’s 99% of people who have kids and feel marriage is harder." The dad cited an example from his life where he mentioned he gets home from work and during dinner, his young kids are constantly bickering at the dinner table.

Image Source: TikTok|@drumbeatlane
Image Source: TikTok|@drumbeatlane

He added, “My wife is like, ‘You know, at the dinner table, you didn't seem to be in a good mood.’ I said, ‘How can I? It has nothing to do with you, you’re great, you're incredible but when I have shout over children fighting in order to have a conversation with you, I just choose not to have a conversation with you.’” He further explained that the scenario had nothing to do with how much he loves or cares for his wife and is solely the result of the chaos kids bring into the environment. “That’s one of the thousand ways kids make it difficult to have a strong loving marriage.” Several parents hysterically agreed at how true the idea was.

Image Source: TikTok|@not.quite.crunchy
Image Source: TikTok|@not.quite.crunchy
Image Source: TikTok|@theharrassinghowards
Image Source: TikTok|@theharrassinghowards

@thewildheartway said, “I am madly in love when I’m alone with my husband but with the kids, we're business partners.” @joegiants17 agreed and said, “Parenthood is worth it but here are 127 reasons why we’re miserable.” @lovethyjas said, “Most disagreements revolve around kids.” Some parents didn’t quite agree on the fact that kids are the problem directly. @madame_jenfree said, “It’s not the kids that are the problem for us. It’s more the lack of shared parental duties.” @mrshents said, “Kids and marriage are hard only when we prioritize kids over the spouse. Kids will eventually leave home, hopefully, your spouse won't.” @brittanyyakaria added: "100% accurate! A weekend together away from the kids will show you it’s not y’all, it’s definitely those kids." @cheriescholl chimed in: "It’s so true. I think we are all trying to be better parents than our parents were. It takes so much energy to do that too!"


@drumbeatlane #stitch with @Liver children make marriage harder. No doubt. They also have made me more mature and less selfish, but they make marriage harder. @Justin #justinkellough #dadsoftiktok #parenting #parentsoftiktok #momsoftiktok #relationshipadvice #marriage ♬ original sound - Justin

 

You can follow Justin (@drumbeatlane) on TikTok for more witty and relatable content on parenting.

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