Dad explains how 'over-gifting' can be a violation of boundaries and it makes so much sense

Whether it's the holiday season or a normal day, everybody loves to receive gifts. However, the art of gifting someone also requires careful thought. If done carelessly, it can be an inconvenience to the person. "Over-gifting," as put by Michael Vaughn – who goes on Instagram as @worldshaker – can be a violation of one’s boundaries. The dad did an impressive dialogue where he acted as a gift-receiver and a third person. He explained why "over-gifting" can be a nuisance and overstepping one's boundaries. “Over-gifting. That doesn’t sound like a thing,” the dad said. “It is,” he replied, impersonating the other person.

On further interaction, the dad clarified that he wasn’t upset about getting too many presents but rather was upset about getting excessive gifts that were of no use to him. “I don’t like someone violating a boundary I set up.” The dad as the third person, then said, “That sounds selfish.” The dad then mentioned that there are a lot of people who barely get gifts, so complaining about not getting a gift was “selfish.” The dad then decided to use an example to execute what an over-gifter is like. “Hey, remember that restaurant you went to last week?” He then replied, “Yeah, the food was terrible, like totally inedible.”

The dad then turned around the question of being selfish in the next role, saying, “There are people who don’t get to eat food how can you complain about not getting proper food?” “Point taken,” the other replied. However, it was still unclear why someone wouldn’t like being gifted excessively. “Getting too many gifts sounds like a great problem to have,” the dad said in his third-person character. Next, the character asked for a glass of water, which the dad gladly offered. He was going to share another example to let the viewers know why excessive gifting can be as good as overstepping boundaries.

“The reason it seems like a great problem to have is because you think all the gifts are valuable,” the dad said. Coming to his example, the dad then offered the character a bottle of water in addition to the glass of water. Next, he also offered some coffee syrup, followed by hot sauce and several other liquids, which were completely pointless. “I can’t use these things right now and I have nowhere to put them,” the dad said in character. “Will you please stop? This is way too much stuff, I just asked for...” the dad said in his character before realizing what he meant by over-gifting. “I see what you did there,” the character said. “You mean when you set a boundary and I ignored it?”

Arguing one last factor, the character asked, “What if gift-giving is their love language?” To this, the dad clarified that even if that were the case, one must learn how to give because love language is all about learning to love the other person. @kellknuth said, “Love this. My family has this weird 'over-gifting with absolute crap' thing that drives me nuts at Christmas. They go for quantity over quality and you end up with a bunch of stuff you don't want or need.” @ruthdatruth suggested, “Someone should create an app that connects over gifters to people who have no one buying them gifts.”