In the clip, Minton starts by stating what he doesn’t do at home: “I don’t help my wife cook. I don’t help her clean, do the laundry, take care of the kids. None of that.” At first, his words raised some eyebrows, but then he flipped the script. “Because I do what I’m supposed to do as a father and a husband. I cook. I clean. I do the laundry. I take care of the kids. I can’t help my wife do those things because they are my jobs too.” His perspective struck a chord with many, reinforcing the idea that household tasks aren’t helping—they’re simply part of being a responsible partner and parent.
Dad explains why he 'can't help' his wife with household chores, hits the nail on the head
The dad's message left viewers angry, but the ‘gentlemanly’ ending changed the story.
The conversation around gender equality and household responsibilities has been ongoing for years, but perspectives are shifting. While women have historically shouldered most of the domestic workload, more people are recognizing that maintaining a home is a shared responsibility among adults. A viral TikTok video from Texas-based UPS driver J.R. Minton (@minton__jr) is helping to reframe the discussion around household chores.
The dad to four shared his role as a parent and a husband, which was equivalent to that of his wife and he believes that managing their house and taking care of their kids is his responsibility, too. Minton then goes on to say that one needs to change the way they speak. He ended the video with a powerful message for all men out there, “Change the way you speak. Change the way you think and grow the f**k up and be a man.”
Minton shared his thoughts on the viral video with Bored Panda and said, “I think it resonates with so many people because it’s not a cultural or political or demographic-specific issue. It’s a family issue.” He further explained that one should accept the share of responsibilities and effort in any relationship and a marriage shouldn’t be any different. He also emphasized that a partner is not an employee but rather a teammate and it’s crucial for couples to realize that they are in this together. Talking about stay-at-home-parents (SAHPs), he elaborated that there is no comparison between SAHPs and employees at a job because both are laboring equally. He shared, “SAHPs (stay-at-home-parents) are also tired and overwhelmed when working parents get home. We view the dynamic as inequitable because raising your child is an invisible labor.”
The video reached a viewership of over 6.7 million on TikTok. Some also shared their similar experiences with partners at home. @myweirdhusband shared, “Had to tell my husband to stop saying, '…for your mother,' to the kids. Empty the dishwasher for me? No. Those are everybody’s dishes.” Minton's message might have left viewers angry initially but the ‘gentlemanly’ ending left people with a sigh of relief.
You can follow J.R. Minton (@minton__jr) on TikTok for more lifestyle content.
This article originally appeared 1 year ago.
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