The father has righly explained why reducing the mental load of your partner even when you're not around is important to be in sync as parents.
When couples decide to take on parenting together, the task gets a little easier as there are two people actively doing their bits as parents. However, when one parent isn’t home or is working, the load automatically falls on the other. In such cases, it becomes exhausting for that parent to work things out. Dad @world.shaker shared an excellent way on TikTok to sustain the efficient mental health of his wife while single-handedly parenting kids even when he’s not home.
“Reducing the mental load for your partner is not just about when you’re in the house, it’s also when you’re out of it," said the dad. He then shared that he was going to be out of town for 6 days regarding business and acknowledged that his wife would have to handle all the child and household responsibilities. He then mentioned that his wife didn’t mind but that he knows it’s a lot to take on in terms of responsibilities. The dad then proceeded to share ways in which he reduced the mental strain for his wife by completing simple chores before he could leave. “Here are some simple things I’m doing now to help her later while I won’t be here,” he said.
He then began to list simple yet efficient ways one can help their spouse or partner to cut back on the exhaustion the many chores and responsibilities bring. “I vacuumed the house so she can start with clean floors,” the dad began saying. He also mentioned that he did the laundry so that there were no heaps of dirty clothes and his wife could start with no clothes to wash. He further added that he did the dishes after putting his oldest kid to bed so that his wife could start without having to clean the dishes the next day. The dad also pre-packed as much as he could of his toddler’s lunch for the following days so that it’s “a grab and go.”
While all the chores the dad was doing would help for a day or two, it greatly cut down on the stress his wife would have had otherwise. It also gives her enough time to prepare for the upcoming days. “Since she’s going to have to wrangle both kids in the morning, I’ve put together 5 outfits for our toddler,” shared the dad. Elaborating on the same, the dad clarified that picking outfits didn’t simply mean choosing what looks best or matches. “I’ve looked at the weather reports to pick these outfits,” he added. “For example, Wednesday is a light shirt and pants because it won’t be cold or raining so they’re gonna be on the playground,” the dad said.
At this point, his thoughtfulness and help were truly raising the bar for fellow parents suggesting how they can provide power-packed help to their partners. Towards the end of the video, the dad added, “I’ve booked a hotel room for her so she can have time for herself after I get back. These are small things with big impacts.” The dad gained traction on the internet for being an active parent and a partner performing their duties. Fellow parents took notes while women were mesmerized by the amount of care he rendered. @alitheally said, “I’m traveling more this season so I love figuring out how to help set up hubby for success.” @seriouslysarahmichelle hysterically said, “That’s how you spice up a marriage haha.”