Couple shares how they prioritize each other while splitting their household chores

Managing a household as a couple can require some effort and sacrifice. But if both individuals communicate properly and pull their weight, things become very smooth. Lesbian couple Cass and Alexa (@twofemmegems) shared a video about how they worked together to have a smooth-running household, utilizing Cass's ADHD to their advantage. The insightful video has gained 185,728 likes on the social media site. 

Alexa does the voiceover for the entire video and we see her sitting with Cass taking down notes at the beginning of the video. She shares how Cass preferred to receive information in the form of a "formal list." So, Alexa would write one up for every day. She says, "I feel seen and heard because things get done. She feels seen and heard because I met her on her level." Alexa shares how her wife would forget about what food they had in the house if it was stored somewhere. 

Therefore, she would put up a weekly menu on their refrigerator door along with putting all of their food in transparent boxes, so that Cass would not have any difficulty finding some tasty food. Alexa spoke about assigning household chores, saying, "We also divide up tasks instead of making everything fifty-fifty. We also make sure there's an overall balance, but we play to our strengths." Alexa mentioned how she was good at doing routine things such as laundry, so she would take up more of those tasks. 

Whereas Cass was more adept at doing tasks that were physically demanding. Alexa also has a shoulder injury, so Cass would step in to do certain chores that would cause her a lot of pain. Alexa reflects on this and says, "This makes me feel really loved and cared for." Finally, the couple engaged in a weekly meeting to make sure that they communicated any concerns with each other. The video concluded with Alexa saying how their system worked great for them. 

The couple's wholesome video highlighted how all the small things could make a big difference in a marriage. People on the site found the video to be very helpful and expressed their thoughts in the comments section. @laura_e_roldan said, "Great advice, I just need a girlfriend willing to do all that now." @evan.mantler commented, "The idea of a weekly meeting in an intimate partnership is so inspiring to me and fills me with joy and hope."

Such couples reaffirm our belief in love and showcase how it endures. Reddit user u/talkintater shared an image a few months back, sharing how their parents left adorable notes for each other on the fridge, even after being married for 40 years. In the image, we see a refrigerator door with many Post-its and notes of varying sizes. In fact, there are so many on the door that some are overlapping. All of them had heartwarming messages written on them. 

A few had faded kisses on them. One note read, "Happy day after your birthday. You are just as special today as you were yesterday." The note concluded with a "Love you" along with a name that had been taken out. Both of these instances show how it's mostly the small everyday things that end up making a huge impact in most relationships. While grand gestures are always welcome, it's important to pay attention to the smaller things.