Parenting might not be easy for any generation but it looks like millennial parents are using humor to help them through the struggles of parenthood.
No two generations have the same parenting style. If you think boomer parents were strict then you'll probably consider millennial parents a lot more lenient. But the real question is, are they doing the parenting job right? A woman named Payal Desai (@payalforstyle on Instagram) took a funny dig at millennial parenting along with her husband Hiren and made a video where they summarized what millennial parents usually do.
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"We are millennial parents. We are going to spoil our kids rotten and then wonder why our kids act spoiled," Desai started the video with a sarcastic remark. "We are millennial parents. We take our iPads everywhere," her husband followed up next. The next thing Desai points out is how millennial parents are going to "gentle parent" their kids until they lose their calm and start apologizing profusely to them.
"We threaten our kids with consequences but we never follow through them," Hiren quotes. Desai adds that as millennial parents they don't have to question any safety precautions either because they have Google at their fingertips all the time. Even though the video was made with a sprinkle of humor, a bunch of millennial parents did not agree with the Desai couple and voiced their opinions.
@jantomsic shared their millennial parenting experience: "I'm a millennial parent, my kids are growing up just fine without tablets. Try a book instead." @itsstaciie noted, "Millennial here and I’ve seen my millennial friends/siblings raise their kids this way and I’m not doing it the millennial way." @sunnymichel remarked, "Children these days aren’t being disciplined enough. My parents were so strict growing up. I hated it as a child, but as an adult, I appreciate it so freaking much. I thank them."
@conciouslylisa_ wrote, "Correction: We say we are gentle parenting but have no idea what it is so we lose our brain cells and threaten consequences we don’t follow through on. Because, again, we have no idea what authoritative parenting is and we’d rather give it a bad rap than read a book." @michrking added, "GenX here. We have one enduring parenting rule, 'There better be consequences!' I would only have consequences that were suitable to my needs. My husband once threatened the kids that there’d be no dessert, but I wanted dessert. He amended the consequences to 'Behave or you’ll have to watch Mommy only have dessert!' Consequences."
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A professional therapist, Steph—who goes on TikTok by @stephanne221— has suggested that millennial parents with their addiction to technology might also not be doing the parenting job right or cultivating a strong bond with their kids any better than their boomer parents. Steph has previously worked with boomer parents as well and she explained how many parents gradually become closed off when their children come asking for a conversation. These children grow up and proceed on their journey and often isolate or push away their parents due to the underlying issues they might have developed from their upbringing.
"Accountability matters and can heal relationships. If you're a parent who is serious about improving your relationship with your children, this is for you!" Steph wrote in the caption of her video. In a second video, she shed light on some of the common mistakes made by millennial parents. She shared that the biggest thing that hampers the parenting performance of millennials is phones. This view is a "consensus" within her community. She shared, "If you are not giving your child that attunement, that empathic connection, then they are going to get it from someone else. It will cause a direct breakdown in the relationship."