'Your peace is worth more than being a prop in someone else's wedding fantasy.'
A mid-size woman, who goes by u/psychologyone9163 on Reddit, was touched when she was first asked to be a bridesmaid for her college best friend's wedding. However, she soon received a "wedding prep kit," with a diet plan inside, clearly instructing her to lose a few pounds before the D-day. Furious, she immediately stepped away from her bridesmaid duties, and the internet is totally on her side. The outrageous post was shared on July 13, 2025.
The 28-year-old, size 12, healthy, active, and confident woman had no plans of losing weight for anyone. So, when she opened the preparation kit that came along with a diet plan, a water bottle, and a note that read, "Let’s all look snatched for the big day! You got this," she was shocked. The woman instantly dropped a text to her best friend, the to-be-bride, telling her that she wasn't comfortable with the whole diet plan idea. "I’d rather not be in the bridal party if my appearance is an issue," she texted, only to receive a response that read, "Oh my god, don’t be so sensitive. I gave one to ALL the girls. It’s about looking cohesive, not shaming anyone." Later, it was revealed that her best friend from college had lied to her about sending the diet plan to everyone, except another bridesmaid who was also a mid-size woman.
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"I bowed out, and now I’m being labeled the 'dramatic one' in our group chat. She even told mutual friends I 'quit over a water bottle,'" she wrote. Confused, the woman turned to Reddit, asking people if she overreacted to the situation; instead, people went all out, appreciating her courage for opting out of bridesmaid duties. For instance, a user who goes by u/seaworthinesstop6667 commented, "No way! If it were me, she wouldn’t be a f****** friend anymore. She clearly cares more about the aesthetic of her wedding than your friendship. And if that wasn’t enough, she even lies about it, obviously because she knows it’s not a good look having only sent it to some of the women. And why are people nowadays so comfortable judging other people’s bodies like this?"
Unrealistic beauty standards often play a big role in fostering low self-esteem in people, especially women. Today, not only do the brides want to look "perfect" themselves, but they also force their bridesmaids to follow absurd aesthetic norms. In fact, in 2008, when Ivanka Prichard and Marika Tiggemann studied the weight-related concerns in brides and bridesmaids, they found more than half considered losing weight before the wedding. Besides, 40% were focused on going on a diet, and more than 10% had already been told by someone to lose weight for the marriage.
Echoing these sentiments, u/lushncurvy said, "Your best friend basically told you your body isn't good enough and then lied when you called her out. That's a huge breach of trust. You didn't overreact; you reacted appropriately to someone trying to control your appearance. Your peace is worth more than being a prop in someone else's wedding fantasy." u/televisionmelodic340 wrote, "Your friend is delulu. Good for you for standing up for yourself and not entertaining her bridezilla nonsense. Feel free to tell the critical mutual friends exactly why you bowed out. She wants a 'cohesive' look? Is she also going to demand all her bridesmaids dye their hair the same color and adjust their heights so they all match? She is ridiculous."