They went so far as to instruct her not to show affection toward her partner on her wedding day to avoid making her brothers uncomfortable.
Weddings are supposed to be a union of two souls in front of all the people they love and care about. However, what happens when the family you have might not be your well-wishers and the relationship with them is actually damaged beyond repair? Does it still make sense to keep them around on such a special day? It is the question raised by u/TAAmIWrongHere after she decided to block and uninvite her unsupportive parents when they continued on their trend of prioritizing their other children even on her wedding. The bride never had a good relationship with her parents, but their demands put her over the edge. Now, she is asking for a second opinion from people on Reddit.
The woman begins the post by sharing how she always felt isolated by her parents. She was never a priority compared to her siblings and had to constantly contend with words like, "Oh, your sibling needs us more." None of her brothers had any special needs, so there was no valid cause for her parents to put them on such different planes. The simple thing was that they considered their sons to be "golden" and "precious" while she was an unwanted middle child.
The daughter further elucidates different standards for her brothers and herself. While her events and needs held no value, she needed to contribute when it came to her brothers. She shared a heartbreaking incident where a rusty bike that she repaired for herself was nonchalantly given off to her brother. Being fed up with such a toxic environment, she decided to move into her aunt's house when she turned 18.
Her decision was right as she managed to turn her life around. Today, she is well-established with a beautiful to-be wife. They have decided to get married and somehow, her parents caught wind of it. They began to intrude in the preparations and again attempted to make it all about the brothers rather than her. She can't have a particular dish at her wedding that she really wants because her brothers don't like it. The last straw was when she was instructed not to be affectionate towards her partner on her wedding day because that would make her brothers uncomfortable. She decided to put her foot down and got into a massive argument with her parents.
The bride uninvited her parents as well as her brothers, calling them out on their behavior. Her mother broke down into tears while her father couldn't understand why she was being so snappy with them. Being overwhelmed with everything, she decided to use the painful words they threw at her years ago, "You're just being selfish, my needs come before yours right now." The father got flabbergasted and tried to belittle his daughter again by saying that situations were different. Not willing to further entertain this, she blocked her parents.
Gradually, everyone in the family got to know about everything that had transpired. Nobody supported the parents, as everyone was aware of their behavior toward their daughter. The bride's mother made a Facebook post regarding the situation, which she promptly pulled down after her family supported her daughter, citing her faults. Ultimately, the bride's grandmother chose to intervene and told her that even though she understood her side, she encouraged her to move on from the past. The bride believes she is in the right, not wanting to give her family further chances to ruin her life, but her grandmother's intervention has put some seeds of doubt in her. It caused her to ask for suggestions on Reddit.
The comment section supported the bride and her resolve to protect her special day. u/Lucky-Guess8786 believed that the parents had it coming, "You are not wrong. Your parents deserved everything you said. I hope you have a wonderful wedding and happy married life." u/Shadowedwolf89 further suggested the bride ways in which she can keep her wedding location secret, "NTA. Throwing their own words back at them was magical. I would be careful about who you invite, as you don't want someone who may give them the date and address. Eloping is a great idea to protect your peace!"