Bride stands up for herself after in-laws invite groom's ex to the wedding

A wedding is a significant turning point in a person's life. So, to make it more special and to ensure everything goes smoothly, most couples plan it well in advance. But some things can prove to be a huge deal breaker for people even if they have been waiting for the big day for a long time. A 27-year-old woman, u/SuperbTarget9054, found herself in a similar situation when her fiance's family went behind her back to invite someone she didn't want at her wedding. She took to Reddit to ask people if her response to this was appropriate.

"I have been engaged to my fiance, Alex, for a year and were planning our wedding for the end of the summer. Everything was going smoothly until a couple of weeks ago when Alex's family dropped a bombshell," the woman wrote in her post. As the fiance's family was very close to each other, they had been involved in the wedding planning. "Recently, I have found out that they have invited Alex’s ex, Sarah, to the wedding. Alex and Sarah were dating for about five years and broke up about two years ago," the bride-to-be revealed. The man was on good terms with his ex, but the idea of her fiance's ex at the wedding made her uncomfortable.

"When I brought this up to Alex, he said that it's a family tradition to invite former partners if they're still friends and that it would be rude to exclude her," the woman revealed. "I tried to explain that having Sarah at our wedding made me feel uncomfortable and undermined the significance of the event for me." Alex thought she was being unreasonable and selfish for not considering his family's feelings. "He argued that it would cause unnecessary drama if we uninvited Sarah now and that we should just focus on enjoying the day," she continued. "I couldn't shake the feeling that this wasn't just about inviting an ex but also about my place in Alex's life and whether I was truly a priority."

The woman finally decided she couldn't go ahead with the wedding. "I canceled the venue and all the plans we had made, explaining to Alex and his family that I couldn't commit to marrying someone who wasn't willing to respect my feelings about such a significant issue," she shared. "Now, Alex and his family are furious with me. They believe I am overreacting and that I should have been more accommodating." The woman's family was divided. Some believed she did the right thing, while others thought she was acting too impulsively. People took to the comments to support the woman.

u/Comprehensive_value wrote, "Why is his family sending invites? And how would have they felt if you had invited one of your exes as a 'family tradition.'" u/BadgeringforHoney commented, "It’s not a tradition for anyone to do this. The family wanted her there... aka he wanted her there for whatever reason. She is better off out of this mess." u/sammac66 remarked, "She is probably currently without a partner and this is why they want her there. You're probably going to find out that mommy and daddy prefer the ex over the new fiance and hope to cause drama enough to break them up. So far, so good. But that's the fiance's fault because had he taken his fiance's side as opposed to his parents and ex-girlfriend, things might be different."