Bride asks if she's wrong to feel upset after brother’s fiancée announces she's wearing white to the wedding

For any bride, her wedding day is the most memorable day, one where she wants both herself and her husband to be the focus of attention. However, this bride-to-be on Reddit, u/LegionBreaker22, felt betrayed by her brother's fiancée, who said she would wear no other color but white. The would-be bride protested by pointing out that only brides wear the color white; however, her brother's fiancée did not seem keen on budging from her decision. 

The 27-year-old, who is getting married in March, asked the Reddit community for advice. She wrote, "We're keeping the wedding fairly traditional, and I've been looking forward to this day for years. [But] here's where the problem comes in: my brother's fiancée, Emily, approached me and casually mentioned that she found the 'perfect dress' for my wedding. She pulled up a picture on her phone, and it was a full-on white gown. Not off-white or cream—straight-up bridal white." 

Naturally, the bride was stunned to see Emily's choice because the color white is traditionally exclusive to brides. So, she protested, "Oh, Emily, I don't think that'll work. Brides usually wear white, and it might confuse people." But her brother's fiancée laughed at her, brushing her concerns aside, saying, "It's fine; I'm not trying to upstage you or anything. I just love how I look in white." Even when she tried to further convince her, Emily asserted, "It's your day; no one's going to mistake me for the bride."

Meanwhile, the bride tried to talk to her brother about the matter, but unfortunately, he too dismissed her concern, saying she was overreacting. "He got defensive, saying, 'I'm making a big deal out of nothing.' He also said that Emily is just being herself," she said. The bride told the Reddit community that she was upset but didn't want any confrontation and asked if she was overthinking the situation.

u/RipBackground6021 rationalized the bride's point citing common sense, "It's basic wedding etiquette not to wear white unless you’re the bride. Emily's refusal to respect that is rude and attention-seeking. You're not being a control freak; you're asking for a very reasonable boundary on your wedding day." u/rongdog echoed the same sentiment, and said, "I think you're totally in the right here. It's your wedding day. Wearing white is traditionally reserved for the bride, and it sounds like you've communicated your feelings pretty clearly." 

Meanwhile, u/robinaw shared what a bride did when she was in a similar situation, "One bride on Reddit had to deal with a group of 3 women planning to wear white. She encouraged all other guests to wear their wedding dresses. She wore red. At this point, you could respond with this hilarious setup, or respond more simply." u/KerriK27 suggested a tit-for-tat solution, "If she shows up wearing white, you get to wear your wedding gown to her wedding!" 

Some others advised to simply revoke her invitation to her brother and his fiancée. u/LimeInternational856 said, "Tell your brother and future SIL that if they continue to push it, they'll be uninvited." u/redelectro7 added, "If this is real, showing you the dress she's picked is exactly for this reaction. Just tell her she's not invited."