Boyfriend demanded woman change her looks for his family — her bold response has the internet cheering

Things start to change a bit once people get into a relationship. However, when both partners understand each other, making small changes in life does not matter, as it helps strengthen their relationship. But what will you do when your partner asks you to change your entire appearance? Something similar happened with a woman named Kelly—who goes by @broadwaybabyto on X. A guy she dated wanted to change her appearance entirely and refused to take no for an answer. She shared her experience on the platform and about the things that followed after saying no to him.

"Years ago, I was dating a guy I thought had real long-term potential. It was the first relationship I had after a slew of not-nice men, and I was surprised by how kind, attentive, and respectful he was," Kelly began. When the relationship finally started getting serious, the man sat her down and talked about meeting his family. However, the boyfriend felt she would have to make certain changes to herself because his family was "traditional." She added, "I asked, 'Like what?' Assuming that he would tell me to tone down my swearing or consider hiding the fact that I was vegan. Asking me to do those things wouldn’t have been right, but I might have understood." But the man gave her a long list of things to change so she would look like a "traditional woman."

"The bright red hair dye? It had to go. Oh, you’re a natural ginger? Can you dye it brown? 'We' prefer brunettes," Kelly recounted. She had to get a manicure but in a "tasteful" way. No bright colors, and nails shouldn't be too long. He suggested that she should also get a pedicure and get her eyebrows done while she was at it. The next thing was makeup, which Kelly had always disliked. "He said I needed to start wearing it. Tasteful colors only. He offered to send me some YouTube tutorials that would teach me the looks 'they' liked." The man also asked her to change the way she dressed. "The only thing that I changed was my relationship status." Kelly broke up with the man, but he didn't take it well.

The man got angry and said that every guy would expect their partner to be more "feminine" when he decided to take her home. When she said no, he started stalking her for two weeks, even after she had refused to continue their relationship. "Then he started showing up at my house with flowers and saying he 'always gets what he wants,'" Kelly revealed. "Thankfully, I had a male roommate who told him if he didn’t stop, we would call the police. That did the trick- I never heard from him again." Kelly was surprised how anyone could refuse to acknowledge a breakup like that. She highlighted how many women face such things when they date men. "I don’t want my safety to be based on luck. I don’t want to have to maintain a constant state of vigilance. Sadly, that’s what women must do. We are constantly on guard. Because while we know it’s 'not all men'… we also know we can’t tell the good from the bad." 

People in the comment section supported Kelly for her stance. @suetheob wrote, "Literally, the guy was the one who lied about who he was and what he wanted in a partner. Girl, you dodged a non-metaphorical bullet there." @sirwaldo42 commented, "Someone who wants to change you loves a fantasy of you they have in their head, not you." @imavvitch remarked, "Oh my God! Sometimes, I wish my boyfriend would tell me what to wear to see his family, but when I ask, he just says, literally anything is fine."