The boy recognized that they could all use a few moments of zen after the yelling and anger that followed his sibling's temper tantrum.
Editor's note: This article was originally published on November 9, 2022. It has since been updated.
Parent-child relationships are extremely complicated. Raising children means helping them understand how to express their emotions in a healthy way and doing so often involves leading by example. But sometimes, your frustrations might get the better of you and you end up affecting your child by how you express your anger. When that happens, it falls to the parent to deal with the situation through honest communication with their child. A father-son duo's heartwarming conversation during one such situation is winning the internet after a video of their interaction was shared online by TikTok user @mollymikos.
The video starts with the text overlay, "After a 2.5-hour long temper tantrum from our 3-year-old, all of our nerves were shot. Here's how our 6-year-old handled it." The young boy is seen sitting at the table taking deep breaths with his arms folded as his dad walks into the room. The young child goes on to exhibit incredible emotional maturity as his father apologizes for "losing his cool."
The child first suggests taking some deep breaths together as he recognizes they could all use a few moments of zen after all the yelling and anger that followed his sibling's temper tantrum. "Thank you, Daniel. You're right," the boy's father says, before adding: "I'm sorry." When the child innocently responds to this by asking, "for what?" the father explains that he's sorry for losing his cool. The father then earnestly tries to explain to the child that although he and his wife keep trying to do better and set a good example for the children, things just get very "frustrating" at times.
The child, in the most heartwarming reaction ever, climbs out of his chair at this and proceeds to offer his father an understanding, warm hug. "Hey, Dad, it's okay," he tells his dad, in what is surely an unforgettable parenting moment for the boy's father.
The father, visibly overwhelmed by the emotional gesture extended by his son, says, "You're the best little guy in the world." The video received a lot of love on the internet, with many users appreciating the parenting skills of the couple and praising the child's emotional intelligence at such a young age. It racked up over 213,000 views on TikTok and more than 95,000 upvotes on Reddit after it was shared to the popular subreddit r/MadeMeSmile.
TikTok user @conspiracygoldfish commented: "not me sobbing at 2 am bc this is the healthiest parent-child relationship ever. keep it up. yall are doing awesome." Another user, @elizabethbanuelos69 appreciated the lad's parenting, saying: "This is why you're good parents. Your older child can regulate his emotions and in empathetic. That's amazing at any age and you did that." User @victoriagamez12 wrote: "I think how he responded shows how good yalls parenting is going. We always only think of the moments we lose our cool and not the good ex."
A Reddit user u/derdast shared that it's important to acknowledge your mistakes, writing: "That's why this kid is emotionally mature because the parents are too. Accepting your own mistakes and owning up to them is hard for a lot of people, you know the little one treated with a lot of respect and love." u/skeled0ll added, "I have to say - this poor exhausted dad may be feeling a lot of self-doubt about his parenting, but if this boy, in all his kindness and premature wisdom, is any indication.. they are doing one hell of a job at raising amazing humans."
u/kimishere2 makes a good point about adults apologizing to children, saying, "Apologizing to children is one of the most important things we can do. We did not become infallible when we became adults/parents. Everyone makes mistakes and when we can own up to our own in front of those little people whose eyes are always upon us that is when we show and teach respect."