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Author pens a poignant post on how friendship evolves in your 30s and 40s and many can relate to it

'We've got to have each other and we've got to take care of each other.'

Author pens a poignant post on how friendship evolves in your 30s and 40s and many can relate to it
Cover Image Source: Facebook/ Amy Weatherly

As you age, friendship dynamics tend to grow and change with the progression of different levels of your life. Amy Weatherly, a Texas-based author gets it. She shared a collection of touching and humorous insights and scenarios that show how friendships change as people grow older via a Facebook post. "Friendship looks a little different in your 30's & 40's than it used to," Weatherly began her post. She continued stating: "Now, it looks like hanging out together on the bleachers at baseball games." She went on to list many more fascinating ways in which friendship changes as people take on new roles in their lives like parenting. "Now it looks like 'Hey, why don’t y’all grab lunch and come hang out while the baby naps?'; "Now it looks like 'I dropped off a cup of coffee and a box of cookies on your front porch.'; "Now it looks like “I’ll come, but only if I can wear stretchy pants.” she wrote.



In a conversation with Good Morning America, Weatherly said that friendship is a "beautiful, wonderful gift that we've been given as humans" She explains that though people "struggle" as they get older and it changes accordingly, "our need for it doesn't go away." She shared that the post is "just a quick list of things that I put together, probably while I was sitting at one of my son's baseball games, realizing how much I enjoyed that time. Because yes, I love watching my son play baseball. But that is the only time that I had to connect with other women my age."

When asked about a particular observation, where she wrote, "Now it looks like 'Hey, how was your mom's surgery? I've been praying for you,'" Weatherly says, "I think that one is really important." Adding this particular example to the list "hits home" for her. "We've got to have each other just to talk to, even if it's 10 minutes. We've got to have each other and we've got to take care of each other," she says.



Weatherly's latest book, "I'll Be There (And Let's Make Friendship Bracelets): A Girl's Guide to Making and Keeping Real-Life Friendships," an adaptation of her previous book, "I'll Be There (But I'll be Wearing Sweatpants)," was released Nov. 8. She's quite passionate about writing about female friendships. The 39-year-old said that showing up as who we are is "a gift of friendship." "You can show up as your best self, you can show up as your lowest self and it doesn't matter, they're going to accept you anyway. Either way, that's pretty beautiful."

About one of the items on her list, "Now it looks like 'Was that really 5 years ago? Seems like yesterday,'" she says that "everybody warns you and everybody tells you life goes really fast and when you're young, you just kind of roll your eyes and you're like, 'Man, old people, am I right?' And then you become the old person and you realize it's true," Weatherly said.



As a mother, Weatherly has had to be intentional about making time for her friends. It also reflects in her list when she writes: "Now it looks like 'I'm not free until 2026.'" She wishes others would do the same. She wants people to understand the importance of making time for friends. "I just want people to know you do have to be really intentional because that time is not going to fall into your lap," she continued. "I think people, with friendship, it's like they want the tree but they don't want to actually plant the seed and that's not how it works."


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