After waiting 1.5 years for boyfriend to propose, woman admits that she has 'fallen out of love' with him

What if the dream you have clung to for years finally comes true—but you find yourself no longer excited for it? Imagine spending countless moments dreaming about your partner proposing in the most magical, fairy-tale way. But when the moment finally arrives, you realize you are no longer attracted to them. This feeling can be confusing and, of course, overwhelming. A woman—who goes by u/feisty8799 on Reddit—admitted being "out of love" with her boyfriend upon learning he was about to propose.

While the woman was already ready to take their relationship to the next level, she revealed that her partner insisted on "living together" to check compatibility before he could propose to her. "I have been ready for much longer than he has, and that's not his fault, of course. But after waiting and waiting, I have gone from anxiety to hope to excitement and finally just numbness," she added. Although her boyfriend wanted to keep the proposal a secret, the woman's sister couldn't contain her emotions and ended up revealing the secret. "It makes sense now that he was trying to get me to take a couple of days off to go away for a mini break to the town where we met, but I couldn't get my leave approved," she wrote.

Meanwhile, her sister noticed her feeling low but thought it was because she had been waiting for the proposal for so long. "But the reality is that I gave up on it a month or two ago," the woman revealed. Despite convincing herself that she was still invested in the relationship, she was falling out of love. "I fear I'm being irrational here because, in total, we've been together for only 3 years. But he's been telling me for 1.5 years that he will 'soon' propose. I feel compelled to say yes now because everything is in place, but I don't feel in love with him anymore," the woman said. 

Additionally, she shared that now that everything seemed to be in place, she feels compelled to say yes. "He seems happy to talk about marriage now and has brought up marrying in autumn a bunch of times, and I wish I still felt the same joy at discussing wedding plans that I did before," she concluded her post.

Reacting to the story, u/unepetiteveggie wrote, "Three years isn't long, and 1.5 from letting you know he wants to propose to a proposal isn't long either for your age. You're checked out, and that's totally fine. Do you want to check back in, or do you want permission to leave?"

u/grouchyyoung commented, "Just because he 'insisted' didn't mean you had to do it. You could have broken up then. You didn't hold your ground and are turning that into anger at him for waiting an entirely reasonable amount of time (three years, in your twenties) to propose."

u/plastic_concert_4916 wrote, "Honestly, it sounds like he was right to wait. If you're not in love with him anymore for not proposing, when it's only been 3 years total in the relationship, then your feelings couldn't have been very strong. It's good he took the time to see if your emotions were true. Break things off, if the feelings aren't there, they aren't there."